Relationship Red Flags

I read any article in the Harvard Bussiness Review 12-07 by John Gottman called making relationships work.

According the article we should be aware of: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. These are the best predictors of continued misery are breakup. You can not resolve conflict with your partner when you are conveying the message you are disgusted with her.

Honoring your partners dreams is important according to the article.
We need humor, affection, silliness, exploration, playing, lust, touching- all those positive emotional things that we share with all mammmals.

Men who sprinkle yeses throughout their relationship and who share power with their wife is important according to the article. The article states that if a man is not willing to share power with his wife; there is any 81 percent chance the marriage will self destruct.

Successful couples look for ways to accentuate the positive.

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Teens Teenagers, child and children and Steroids.

The American Academy of Pediatrics provides information on the dangers of steroid use.

Possible side effects include:
High blood pressure, liver damage and cancers, stroke and blood clots, urinary and bowel problems, headaches, aching joints and muscle cramps, nausea and vomiting, sleep problems, increased risk of ligament and tendon injuries, severe acne on face and back, baldness.

A special danger for adolescents, teens, and middle school children are the effect anabolic steroids have on growth. Adolescents growth may stp to soon, they can become dependent on steroids. Teens who use steroids are more likely to use other addictice substances.

Some Effects of steroids on males:

Testicles shrink, impotence, increase in nipple and breast size, enlarged prostate.

Some effects on females for steroid use:

Reduced breast size, enlarged clitoris, increase in facial/body hair, deepened voice, menstrual problems.

Emotional effects

"Roid Rage" Severe, aggressive behavior that may result in violence, such as fighting or destruction of property.

Severe mood swings, hallucinations, paranoia, anxiety and panic attacks, depression, thoughts of suicide, angry, hostile and irritable mood.

The risks of steroid use is huge if you read all the above.

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Teens Anger and Violence Kills 7 year old girl

Two teens in Colorado killed a 7 year old girl. The girl lost consciousness and stopped breathing after the teens hit, kicked, and body-slammed her, imitating moves used in the video game moves from Mortal Kombat.

Teens need parenting, boundaries, love, healthy ways to cope with anger and other emotions. Teens are spending hours a day absorbing violence instead of learning skills that will prepare them for a healthy future. I believe the detriments of playing violent video games far outweigh any benefit.

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