Relationships and Communication in Relationships

Here are a few tips in developing healthy communication.

Always use any "I" statement.(.I feel disappointed.)( I felt happy when you arrived on time)

Give up the concept of being right(ego).

Do not bring up old issues when talking about a current situation.

Do not mind read.

Listen.

Learn to empathize.

Restate what you believe is important in relation to what is being communicated toward you.

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If things escalate take a cooling down period and state that you "need to cool down" however you will be back in any hour to revisit the topic.

Children Diet- Overweight

Twenty three million chilldren and teens were either overweight and or obesse in 2003.

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Extra pounds can take a huge toll on a child's health: diabetes, cholesterol, sleep apnea and many other health problems.

Healthy diets and exercise are important for a balanced healthy child.

PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

The number of US troops with new cases of PTSD jumped fifty percent in 2007.

Approx 40 thousand soldiers have been diagnosed with PTSD since October 2003.

Children Behavior and Crime linked to lead

A new study at the University of Cincinnati draws a direct relationship between the amount of lead in a child's blood and the propensity to participate in crime in the future.

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The study showed a strong relationship between high lead and violence.

Angry child, teen, adolescent, family

Parents, families, children, and adolescents can learn to communicate in healthy ways without rage and inappropriate anger.

Children, teens, adolescents, adults, and families can learn to modulate their and manage anger.

We can learn to release old anger patterns that are not effective and creating frustration and pain in our lives.

We can learn to channel anger in positive manners.

We can learn respect and empathy.

Counseling and therapy can provide change in your life if you are willing to make any effort.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy child,teen,adolescent, adult counseling

Counseling can be a very powerful tool to change unhealthy thinking patterns.

We all make errors in our thinking. At times we overgeneralize and the facts simply do not support our overgeneralization.

At times me blow things out of proportion. We may fortune tell and assume things will turn out poorly.

Being stubborn and not open to someone elses thoughts and opinions can create rigidity and inflexibility for life.

Some people think in black or white categories with no gray middle. Judgment always creates a negative dialogue.

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If we can work on our distorted thoughts and work on compassion and empathy you can change your anger, anxiety, mood, relationships, communication skills and life.

Anger Management Mood child, adolescent Behavior

Peace is possible. It is a choice for a child, teen, adolescent as well as for adults and family members.

We can choose acceptance instead of judgment with family members. We can choose forgiveness instead of attack and defense. It is challenging to do at times.

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It is your choice to hold anger and resentment like baggage you carry with you or you can choose to let it go and look at life in a peaceful way.

Adolescents Anger and Anger management

Teens struggle with anger and mood regulation.

It is important to respect your. Mom and Dad as well as elders. Being a smart ass will only escalate anger in all parties and create drama at home, work, and at school.

A child, teen. or adolescent can agree to disagree in arespectful tone without anger, name calling, and disrespect.

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Adolescents, teens, anc children must not interrupt authority figures while speaking. This is disrespectful and will only add to drama and fighting.

Anger- Angry-Anger Management for stress in life

The perception that: family, peers, co-workers, and society are intentionally doing bad things to you is self destructive.

By blaming others we give up the chance to empower ourselves and make changes.

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We can keep waiting for others to change and this can make us; angry, judgmental, and possibly vindictive.

Laughter at home and at work

Laugh..Laugh..Laugh...Laughter is any intervention that enhances mood, resilience, and personal beliefs.

Forced laughter will make workers and individuals feel better.

Laughter appears to help with self regulation, and positive emotions..
So remember to Laugh each day!!

Web addiction

Research in South Korea states web addiction is a serious problem and state 168,000 children may require psychotropic medications.

In China they state 10 million teenagers have a pathology regarding their computers.

They state the child-teen experience: cravings, withdrawls, a loss of sende of time, negative social implications.

Mental Health Counseling

Cognitive therapy or CBT cognitive behavioral therapy has been extremely popular. A study states 50 percent of psychiatrists use cognitive therapy.

Psychiatrists, psychotherapists, believe it is effective in treating a broad array of conditions, including depression, anxiety, phobias, obsessions, addictions, and compulsions.

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The American Journal of Psychiatry published a study with people that had mild to moderate depression. The study states their symptoms were alleviated with cognitive therapy.

Video Game Violence

In Greeley Colorado a teenager has been ordered to stand trial after a 7 year old girl in his care died in what police said was a beating that mirrored the video game "Mortal Kombat."

Violence and teens, violence with children, violence and TV, violence and Video games, watching violence has desensitized child, children, teenagers, families, and adults.

Limiting or eliminating violence on TV, Video Games, TV, and music as well as teaching and role modeling healthy communication without violence and rage is essential for our children and society.

Suicide-Stress Disorder-PTSD-War

A man who killed his brother and then killed himself was a US Marine who suffered from PTSD ( Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

The mans wife stated "He was one hell of a marine." She said her husband was placed on several different medications after he developed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. "Thats not what he needed, " she said.

Angry child-teen and Angry parents

Parents, children, and teens must become more educated regarding the unhealthy dynamics of anger and agression in the family.

Understanding the ways we blame family members is essential. Becoming aware of how we use anger, yelling, screaming, threats, withdrawal, and intmidation are necessary in becoming a healthy family unit.

We must look at our parents and their parents behavior and break the chain.

Children-Child Anger

Check for Physical symptoms: tight muscles, jaw, fists, hot sensations etc.

Breath in deep breaths with positive thoughts and exhale and release the negative.

Make a good choice.

Hitting, breaking things, cussing, yelling, is Never ok.
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Set healthy boundaries and express your truth.

Take your stress and anger and channel it into: bike ride, sports, music, drawing, hiking, walking, listening to music etc.

Child-Children Anger

Shame is a message that is difficult for children to manage. Shame some how tells the child he is bad or different. Shame occurs when the child feels threatened at the center of their sense of self.

Shame makes a child feel helpless, less than human, embarassed and humiliated.

Anger rage allows the child-teen to take themselves out of "the feel bad". The child loses themselves due to adrenaline and increases in cortisol that prepare the child-children for flight or fight.

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Meditation Effects Neurology and Biology

The earliest research on the benefits of meditation has emerged in behavioral medicine, where mindfulness meditation was applied as any adjunct to medical treatment for a number of medical conditions. Early studies in mindfulness meditation examined the neurobiological and medical effects of this type of meditation on augmenting the treatment of medical conditions such as chronic pain, general stress reduction related to anxiety disorders, psoriasis, and binge eating.

Research on the impact of stress on the immune system has demonstrated that psychosocial stress and negative emotional stages negatively impact the immune system. Stress and anger management and relaxation practices have shown to to boost the immune system.

The above info is a small portion taken from Nov 2006 CNS Spectrums 829-851 article called The Application of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Interventions in the treatment of co-occuring addictive and mood disorders. Article was written by Kimberly Hoppes, PsyD.

Marijuana

Marijuana is any addictive substance. It disrupts the neurochemical processes of the dopamine pathways. This can lead to long term and lasting changes in the experience of pleasure, motivation, and normal mood regulation.

Marijuana and other drug substances with addictive properties disrupt the circuitry of the brain by mimicking the actions of the chemical messengers in the brain which bind with receptors in the brain. Mainly interfering with the dopamine reward pathways.

Showing Love to your Child, Children, Adolescent, Teenager,

It is important to make your child feel loved, safe, secure, and stable. If your child can not be honest and can not tell you the truth their potentially can be a communication issue that can be changed.

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Set a good example for your child. If you want your child to communicate without cuzzing and screaming set that example. If you want your child to regulate his stress and anger it is important that he/she has tools to regulate their moods.

Children and Teens are affected by what they see and hear via media so set limits and make sure you are aware of what your child is looking at, playing, watching, and doing with music, tv, computers, video games, cell phones, and all forms of information.

Kid sports College Sports cut in Arizona ASU, City Youth Sports

Children, teens, college students, and families area ll being impacted by city budget and state budget cuts shutting down sports programs.

At Arizona State University Mens Wrestling, Tennis, and Swimming have been axed.

I understand economics is any issue, however, we must re-think our priorities. Children, teens, college students are our future.

Society must re-think what is important. Education for our children and healthy programs that help children like sports programs need to be a priority.

Sports is a healthy way to channel stress and regulate childrens moods. Sports is a way to set goals, learn teamwork, strive for a goal, meet friends for a lifetime, build self esteem, manage anger and so much more...

Billions of dollars are going to the light rail project which is great for some, however, is this really the most important place for your tax dollar? Can we allocate some money to help the children for sports?

My vote is allocate money toward education, child, teen, and adult programs.....more money needs to go to programs for our youth!!

Dyslexia Learning Disabilities

Many children and teenagers are diagnosed with learning challenges, disabilities, dyslexia etc.

It is important to have supportive understanding teachers as well as parents so your child can overcome his/her learning challenges.

A child can easily feel less than and become humiliated that he/she can not read, learn, comprehend etc.

A child with a learning challenge is simply a child who learns in a different manner than the standard.

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The "Fonz" Henry Winkler from the show Happy dates talks about how he memorized scripts to overcome his dyslexia and then had to ad lib during auditions because he could not remember the script.

Working daily with your child, being patient, encouraging your child, getting them assisatance/tutor as early on as possible is essential. Teachning your child that he is intelligent but may learn in different ways is important. Building your child's self esteem is also essential.

Grand Theft Auto IV-Children-Teens-Adolescents

Grand Theft Auto IV reinforces violence, crime, and violence against women, anger, property damage, disrespect for laws and society.

One of the Grand Theft Auto games gives the player extra points for having sex with a prostitute/ hooker.

Our society appears to love it sellling over 500 million Dollars worth in less than 6 months since its release.

Sure it is only a game. I guess if you want your children spending hours each day stabbing hookers, stealing cars, and killing people. Is this teaching then anything that will help them in school? Is this teaching them anything that will help them in society?

There is a saying garbage in garbage out. If you wonder why your child or teen is angry and violent it may not be the video game, however, the game does not teach your child or teenager anything about: responsibility, hard work, accountability, good manners, respecting their elders, respecting property, healthy communication, healthy ways to regulate anger or mood, honesty, trust, health, education, the arts....

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Taking time teaching and listening to your child in relationship to their life:moods, anger, self esteem, school challenges, peer pressures, drugs, manners, ethics, values, hard work, responsibility etc is a much better choice than Grand Theft Auto IV or really any video game with violence.

Stress-Anger-Grief

Do not blame anyone for your state of mind. Judgment will only displace blame.

It is a great idea to stay busy and exercise. Do something..giving to someone else: your time and energy can help with stress, mood, and grief.

Stay positive things could be worse. If you do not belive it then pick up the book Mans Search for Meaning by Vicktor Frankel. Read it!

Depression

A large study found TMS (transcranial magnetic stimulation) a technique that uses magnetic energy to stimulate nerve cells in the brain effective in some cases of depression.

This study's participants had not responded to conventional medications.

This depression study was done at Rush U Med Center in Chicago.

Depression Exercise

Exercise, exercise, exercise....Exercise creates new neurons and some study states that after 10 weeks exercise showed to be more effective against depression than pills.

We must push ourselves to exercise.....it is important for mind, body, and spiritual health...

ADHD and Adoption Child, Teenager, Adolescent

Adolescents who were adopted as infants faced a greater risk of two conditions ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. A study published in the archives of pediatric and adolescent Medicine stated the risk was twice as likely to occur for adolescents that were adopted as infants.

Counseling Children,Teens, Teenagers Healthy Choices

Three Teenagers removed a skull by digging it up from a gravesite.

Teenagers need boundaries and limits. Teens need to be listened to and heard. Many Teenagers think parents will criticize and judge them so they" act out" lie and make unhealthy choices.

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Teens need to feel safe so they can share their world with their parents.

Teens can get into trouble when they are angry, sad, bored, hungry, tired etc....

Parents get busy with work and many teens believe they are not loved and that they are not important.

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Many soldiers are afraid to undergo mental health assessments because they believe it would hurt their career.

Tha Army states suicide rates in 2006 rose 17.3 percent per 100,000 troops. This was the highest level in 26 years of record keeping.

Anger Anger Management and Stress

A women became so angry after a Yankees v Redsocks game. She drove her car into a group of people and now is arraigned on reckless second degree murder.

Anger and stress can be managed through: counseling, psychotherapy, progressive relaxation, anger management, stress management etc. It is our thoughts and behaviors that must be addressed. Lifeworks Az www.lifeworksaz.com looks at managing anger and stress through a variety of ways so one can stay balanced and healthy in all aspects of life: relationships, family, work, school, sports, friendships and more.

Take Care of Self

Meditation allows us to create happiness with out external events impacting our mood.

We all have choices so be conscious when you make a choice.

Go with your gut authentic reactions. Authentic choices appear to be in the body more than the mind.

Take time for peace and solitude.

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Do something you really enjoy: basketball, photography, reading on the beach, talking and connecting with people.

Teens Depression

Teens, depression, and marijuana use are dangerous and can lead to suicidal thoughts, dependency, mental illness accordimg to a white house report.

A teen who is depressed is more than twice as likely to have used marijuana then teens that are not depressed.

Drug tests can be purchased to test for an array of drugs. Teachning a child to manage his stress , build his/her self esteem, mood regulation, associating with healthy peers, making healthy choices for friends can be important.
Setting healthy boundaries is crucial.