Child Counseling Bullying Phoenix Arizona and Scottsdale

A recent research article regarding bullying confirms that a child’s mental health is impacted in long term ways due to bullying. Children that are bullied suffer many mental health consequences: depression, anxiety, suicidal tendencies. Children manifest a wide array of physical symptoms as well.

Children are victimizing children and parents and schools need to have firm consequences to protect these children.

Parents and teachers must teach: compassion, empathy , teamwork , altruism , fairness, kindness , and healthy behaviors .

Healthy behaviors start at home . If a child is allowed to verbally victimize and physically be aggressive at home this will transfer to school.

Parents must teach right from wrong . Families must not allow verbal , physical, or emotional abuse and if they do not address this it will spill over onto peers and others.

Schools must enforce very severe consequences to stop bullying behaviors and have a responsibility as well as each family .

Children as well as teens that have been bullied are at a much higher risk for: depression, anxiety, panic disorders and more years later. Many children and teens who have been bullied will try and self medicate to cope with their anxiety, mood, and depression. Research according to the Journal of American  medical Association state that mental health issues continued into the late twenties from early childhood or the teen years.

Bullying is a distinctive pattern of deliberately harming and humiliating others. It’s a very durable behavioral style, largely because bullies get what they want—at least at first. Bullies are made, not born, and it happens at an early age, if the normal aggression of two-year-olds isn’t handled well.

So what makes a child become a bully? Often children who are dealing with difficult situations at home, such as divorce, or in school will bully others as a way to feel more important or in control of things happening in their lives. Typically, a schoolyard bully is a child who has low self-esteem and is looking to achieve popularity.Bullies couldn’t exist without victims, and they don’t pick on just anyone; those singled out lack assertiveness and radiate fear long before they ever encounter a bully. No one likes a bully, but no one likes a victim either. Grown-up bullies wreak havoc in their relationships and in the workplace.

The bully can victimize a child or teen: physically, emotionally, sexually, or verbally. Many times the victim of bullying at home becomes the victimizer at school or on the internet. These behaviors are learned.

Many Bullies were diagnosed as having personality disorders such as antisocial personality disorder as well as narcissistic personality disorder. these personality disorders show a lack of empathy and compassion for people and mistreatment of others.

Kids and teens no longer need muscles to bully and torment their peers. Some young people use Web sites, cell phones, instant messaging, chat rooms, blogs and social networking sites as options to harass, threaten and ridicule their peers. What may start as a joke can become very serious once launched into Cyber-Space. The impact on the victim can be devastating and even tragic. In participating in these actions, the bully may have committed a crime, exposed his or her parents to liability or even possibly damaged his or her own prospects for getting into college or landing a job.

Nearly 43% of kids have been bullied online. 1 in 4 has had it happen more than once.
Over 70% of students report seeing frequent bullying online.  Over 80% of teens use a cell phone regularly, making it the most common medium for cyber bullying.Over 68% of teens agree that cyber bullying is a serious problem.
Approximately 85% of young people think bullying online is easier to get away with than bullying in person.

Below  is an article from CNN on Cyber Bullying online…

(CNN) — If you’ve ever complained that the trolls junking up online comment sections are a bunch of sadistic psychopaths, you might be onto something.

An online survey by a group of Canadian researchers suggests that Internet trolls are more likely than others to show signs of sadism, psychopathy and “Machiavellianism”: a disregard for morality and tendency to manipulate or exploit others.

“It was sadism, however, that had the most robust associations with trolling of any of the personality measures,” says an article by psychologists from the University of Manitoba, University of Winnipeg and University of British Columbia. “In fact, the associations between sadism and … scores were so strong that it might be said that online trolls are prototypical everyday sadists.”

Sadism is a tendency to take pleasure in other people’s pain or discomfort.

The article was published last week in the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

As defined in the article, online trolling is “the practice of behaving in a deceptive, destructive, or disruptive manner in a social setting on the Internet with no apparent instrumental purpose.”

So, as opposed to cyberbullying, saying nasty things during an argument over politics or even making hateful comments that reflect the commenter’s true feelings, trolls are offensive for the sheer enjoyment of it. Or, in Internet parlance, “for the lulz.”

“Trolls operate as agents of chaos on the Internet, exploiting ‘hot-button issues’ to make users appear overly emotional or foolish in some manner,” the article reads. “If an unfortunate person falls into their trap, trolling intensifies for further, merciless amusement. This is why novice Internet users are routinely admonished, ‘Do not feed the trolls!’.”

Survey respondents were asked about their Internet behavior, including how much time they spend online and whether they comment in places like YouTube or on news websites. They also were given tests that measured responses against psychology’s ominously named “Dark Tetrad”: narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy and sadistic personality.

Commenters who said they enjoy trolling other users more than other options (which included debating topics and making new friends) consistently scored higher on the “tetrad” and displayed a tendency to enjoy trolling because it is pleasurable, the authors wrote.

The questions asked to determine sadistic tendencies included ”I enjoy physically hurting people,” “I enjoy making jokes at the expense of others” and “I enjoy playing the villain in games and torturing other characters.”

To be clear, the article is not based on a random sampling of respondents.

For their final study, researchers gave their questionnaire to 188 Canadian psychology students who got extra course credit for completing the surveys and 609 United States residents who use a website that lets people fill out surveys for a small amount of money. Those respondents were paid 50 cents for filling out the questionnaire.

But it speaks to a growing concern about behavior that has existed, certainly, since the dawn of the Internet and in other forms for much, much longer.

Sites like YouTube and the Huffington Post have banned anonymous comments, requiring users to create an account that identifies them by name, while others have taken different tacks to try to moderate comment sections.

“These findings provide a preliminary glimpse into the mechanism by which sadism fosters trolling behavior,” the article says. “Both trolls and sadists feel sadistic glee at the distress of others. Sadists just want to have fun … and the Internet is their playgroun

Articles are not to be taken as a substitute for professional advice or counseling.