I have worked with children five through eighteen and families for the past fifteen years plus and I have worked with : ADHD, Depression, Aspegers, ASD, Bipolar, Anxiety, Trauma, Motivation, Behavioral, Emotional, Sports performance and much more.


There are many components involved in a child’s mental health. The first meeting I set up is an assessment. The Assessment involves a parent or Parents or legal guardian that has a relationship with the child and has insight into the child’s daily behaviors, thoughts, and emotions.


A parent may bring a child in for a variety of issues observed or that was diagnosed at one time, however, I look at emotions and behaviors at home and at school and with peers. I will look at the child’s eating habits as well as the child’s sleep habits. These are just a few things that can contribute to behavioral and emotional issues.


I will look at the family dynamics and the family system at the home. What are the various relationships in the home. How are the relationships between the child and the parents? How are the relationships with the child and siblings? What is the communication like between parents and child? How much time is each child spending with parent or parents?


I also look at your child’s habits. What habits are healthy and what habits need to be modified.


Many children and teens are on social media, texting, and playing video games. There is a great deal of research WORLDWIDE that show a correlation between excess exposure to media and and behaviuoral and emotional issues as well as anxiety and depressed mood. I have seen huge improvements in my office when there is modifications made at home and firm daily boundaries that are set to limit the above.


Does your child or teen express his thoughts and feelings daily in a positive manner or healthy way? If not this is an area that can improve through child/teen counseling as well as through parenting tips. There is a lot of research to show that healthy emotions are expressing feelings and coping with emotions daily not stuffing emotions, ignoring emotions or numbing emotions. If emotions are not dealt with negative results are more likely to ooze out or form. Healthy communication is essential for employment and friendships and long term relationships.


Many children have great parents however they create negative messages they play in their heads all day everyday. Think of a garden where you want to grow beautiful flowers, however, the garden is full of weeds. The flower can not receive the nutrients and the water and the sun because the weeds are taking them and the flower can not grow or blossom. This is like a child’s mind. A child creates his or her own messages. For example

“ I can not succeed”, “ I am not athletic”, “ I am a bad child”, “I am ugly”, “ I can not get a good grade”, “ I am not lovable”, “ I am a loser”, etc. I see this in my office on a regular basis. These thoughts must be addressed before your child can blossom and bloom and create a balanced and happy child. This ties into self esteem and impacts emotions and behaviors and mood. This impacts your child and his future as an adult until it is addressed.


Children and teens have stress from academics and at times they have a learning disability and truly are struggling . Parents can set up a 504 or IEP to address a child that is struggling academically. Parents can obtain additional support like a tutor or a smaller school to address and support one’s child.


Many children are being bullied at school. Children report being bullied : verbally, emotionally, physically, and via the internet or texting. Looking at what is going on at school with peers and friends is vital for a child’s future.


Many children and teens have friendships via online games however they do not have friendships outside of technology. There is a lot of research that shows children and teens without friends become adults that are depressed and have emotional issues. It is important to explore your child’s social issues and social skills so if this is an area for improvement then it will be addressed.


Many children and adolescents are struggling with divorced parents and living in two homes. Many youth struggle with these dynamics. Divorce is one of the most devastating events for a child or teen. Change for children is very hard and can be extremely challenging. Balancing the two households with different rules and parenting styles is stressful for youth. Many children and teens do not see one of their parents at all or with limited frequency even when they live in the same city. Learning how to cope with above is vital.


Children and teens may have medical issues that have been challenging that they need help with and support. Many children have past trauma in their life that needs to be addressed.


Teaching youth how to cope with stressful events and learning how to manage their moods and emotions is very important for balance, health and success.


I work with youth and parents to help the child address many components to create health and success in their lives.


Children and Teens as well as parents can learn how to create a team player environment, how to be thoughtful, how to contribute to the family, how to create a win win environment at home. Teaching children about mutual respect is very important.

There are many other areas that are addressed at the assessment however there are many factors that can contribute to a child’s behavior, emotions and mood.


The best approach is a collaborative positive approach where parents and children are working together to promote health, mutual respect, healthy behaviors, and more with a practitioner that has expertise in areas mentioned above.




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