Counseling Children Brain and Behavior, Paradise Valley, Phoenix Arizona, Arcadia, Biltmore

Your child’s brain is a very important piece in all aspects of your child’s life and his or her future. The brain is responsible for decision making, awareness, healthy behaviors, defiant behaviors, academics, school, social relationships, family relationships, angry behaviors, aggressive behaviors, Mood, happiness and balance and much more.

Your child and teen’s brain is shaped by the environment meaning that parenting and media and peers and social media impact your child’s brain. Helping your child’s brain be balanced is vital for a healthy and successful adult to emerge. Old studies stated that a child’s brain was fixed and little change could occur due to genetics, however, over the past 40 years there has been thousands of studies showing that your child’s brain can be molded like play-dough and can be re-wired so your child can excel in learning and can show progress with social skills and interpersonal relationships and your child and teen can learn to manage their mood be it anger or sadness or a depressed mood there are many skills a child can learn to find balance in their behavior and their lives. Parents can help build and nurture a stronger more empowered and resilient child and adolescent teen.

Integrating your child and adolescent teenagers brain is very important for their emotional and physical well being. In this blog I will not go into great depth on the physiology of the brain , however, finding a balance between the left side of the brain( logic, linguistics), and the right side of the brain ( emotions, creativity, the images, the experience, the big picture) is vital. Helping the brain consider a balance between instincts and impulses with thoughtful consideration and action is important as well. When the left brain and the right brain work well together there is harmony and this means the brain can accomplish exponentially more since there is synchronicity going back in forth from the left part of the brain to the right part of the brain.

Helping children explore feelings and emotions and healthy communication are ways to develop the Right side of your child’s brain and develop emotional intelligence. Many adults value IQ ( left brain) intelligence , however, being able to connect emotionally, being able to empathize, being kind, being thoughtful, being helpful, listening to your beloved family member, showing interest in their perspective and feelings is an element that most relationships want and without it the relationship is out of balance and for many is not fulfilling. 

I have seen this integration with many children and teenagers I have worked with for over 15 years. I have seen this with Autistic children , Children and teens with learning disorders, Oppositional Defiant children and teenagers, Angry youth and adults as well. I have seen this with depression and anxiety in youth and adults as well.

Integration will help your child and teenager thrive: physically, socially, emotionally, and intellectually. When the brain is balanced you will see improved : decision making, better control of emotions, improved social and family relationships, and success in school.

Think of walking with both legs you feel balanced as oppose to hopping on one leg. Children and teens as well as adults move from the right brain to left brain. On one side we become controlling and inflexible and on the other side we may become stressed out and emotional and feel out of control. It is vital to fine the balance in between. We can find balance with: the angry child, the controlling child, the sad, sobbing hurting child, so we can evolve and become a happy balanced child and a healthy thinking and feeling adult. Balancing emotions and logic is essential for stress management and balance and peace and harmony. David Abrams MAPC, LPC has expertise in Family counseling, Child and teen counseling, as well as adult counseling. You can see testimonials on his web site at as well as see the wide areas of mental health he works with in a holistic manner looking at all areas of life that are not in balance to create health, success, happiness, and balance

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