Counseling Teenagers to build self esteem and manage mood Phoenix Arizona

Cyberbullying is happening with children and teens and is hidden from parents via: instagram, snapchat, Facebook, whatsapp, texting, and other applications on your child’s smartphone or electronic device. Ganging up on someone and victimizing them and humiliating them is abuse and it is not humor. Many children and teens have committed suicide based on cyberbullying. Parents can monitor and discuss above with their children and monitor their digital footprints.

Teens and children are spending between 6-9 hours per day on electronic devices. Youth in America according to a recent study of over 3000 youth show they are spending more time on media and electronic devices including phones than they are sleeping. The cell phone, Tv, You tube videos, cell phone games, texting , instagram, snapchat, video games, netflix , hula are distracting children from homework, exercise, and healthy face to face relationships. Children and Teenagers are in their room jumping from one electronic device to another and it is having a negative impact on learning and grades! I had a news reporter tell me that we do not know the impact of media on children. There are thousands of studies showing that children and teens are out of balance with media use, tv, cell phone use, and video games. The experts state children should be using no more than 1.5 hours per day . This includes the pediatric medical community. So media Health Care Doctors, Psychologists, Researchers, and world experts maintain we must limit the exposure to electronics. It impacts sleep, mood, performance, social skills, academic success and more in a negative manner.

Teenagers between the ages of 13-18 are spending on average nine hours per day on electronics: tv, netflix, texting, you tube, Facebook, instagram, social networking, snapchat, video games, online videos. Teens are rarely maintaining 7 hours of sleep per night during the school week.

Children are also using electronic media at a high rate. Youth ages 9-12 are averaging six hours per day of electronic media use and this does not include time for homework.

Seventy percent of teens do not believe that watching tv, texting, playing video games, surfing the net impacts their ability to study and learn. Research shows this not to be the case in fact it is the opposite of what the teens believe.

Teen Boys are spending a great deal of time on video games. Male teens spend almost ten times the amount of time on video games and online gaming as well as cell phone gaming. Teen girls spend more time on social media than boys and girls spend more time reading than boys.

Parents are in a power position to set boundaries for: sleep, gaming, texting, Tv, Homework, and more. If parents do not set firm limits than an immature child will be sucked into the vortex of games and entertainment and will be in their rooms drunk with power. Family communication will deteriorate, grades will go south, negative behaviors will become more frequent, family stress will increase, and mental and physical health will be poor.

Being bullied and teens and school age children that are rejected lead to feelings of powerlessness and isolation. Victims often feel an extremely intense desire to regain their power and turn to violent behaviors to regain their power.

Twenty five percent of students are bullied and of these children seventy percent are bullied at school.

Studies show that students that have been bullied often are very likely to be vulnerable to: depression, anxiety, eating disorders, social isolation, sleep issues and disorders, substance and drug dependence and alcohol abuse, cutting, and more mental health issues. Post traumatic stress Disorder and suicide have also been linked to bullying. Long term psychological damage is linked to bullying and abuse ( emotional, verbal, physical, mental).

Gov legislation and laws have not stopped the violence. We have had 50 school shootings since Sandy Hook only a few years ago this is outrageous and sad and tragic.

We must teach children and teens mood management skills, stress management, social skills, healthy way to communicate thoughts and feelings and more. We need to teach children and teenagers: compassion, empathy, kindness, tolerance, respect, and coping skills for life. We must encourage youth to talk about bullying to parents and to share the info with the principal and all teachers and not look the other way. 

Building self esteem through Cognitive Behavioral therapy to help your child and teen rewire his or her brain for future excellence.

Self esteem is how a child evaluates him or herself . Many children have a very negative thought process of themselves . If a child thinks poorly of themselves their behavior often will be poor . Addressing self esteem is vital in helping a child’s behavior challenges .

Children can learn healthy life skills and this will help them become more successful . Success will develop into more positive interactions with: teachers , peers , and family and this will help children enhance their self esteem which is a foundation that will be carried with them in all activities for life .

Parents can work on positive feedback for the small steps a child takes and focus on the good . Taking time to really listen and understand your child is important .

Cyber bullying  also must be discussed it is happening with exponential frequency and is not ok.

Obtaining counseling for children and counseling for teens is important to address bullying to help youth learn skills to address this pain and provide parents solutions so your child does not suffer long term psychological disorders and other forms of harm to family, peers, or self.

www.lifeworksaz.comhas expertise building children and teens self esteem as well as managing negative thinking and depressed and imbalanced moods.

Schools need to feel safe physically and emotionally for children and teenagers. Schools must be pro active with anti bullying programs and seminars and education on bullying on a regular basis. Schools should devote time to mental health issues since they will ooze out daily in the schools so it must be addressed!

A sixteen year old teen age girl-, who died after getting into a fight with another girl over a boy, was jumped by bullies who slammed her head against a bathroom sink at a school in Delaware Thursday morning.

A teen shot two students at Antigo High School’s prom this past Saturday. The student had been bullied since middle school! Reports state students had bullied him for years and made fun of his hygiene and called him names High School

The latest in a decades-long string of U.S. school shootings drew immediate national attention, as high schools are holding proms across the country.

There is a strong relationship between bullying and violence. Many teens that have committed violent acts and shootings and have killed others have suffered from alienation from their peers in school, neglect, and often a history of abuse. Abuse can be: emotional, physical, or verbal abuse.

Many of the victimizers in bullying deaths and killings at high school are past victims.

If a child is allowed to verbally victimize and physically be aggressive at home this will transfer to school.

Parents must teach right from wrong . Families must not allow verbal , physical, or emotional abuse and if they do not address this it will spill over onto peers and others.

Schools must enforce very severe consequences to stop bullying behaviors and have a responsibility as well as each family .

Children as well as teens that have been bullied are at a much higher risk for: depression, low self esteem. anxiety, panic disorders and more years later. Many children and teens who have been bullied will try and self medicate to cope with their anxiety, mood, and depression. Research according to the Journal of American  medical Association state that mental health issues continued into the late twenties from early childhood or the teen years.

Bullying is a distinctive pattern of deliberately harming and humiliating others. It’s a very durable behavioral style, largely because bullies get what they want—at least at first. Bullies are made, not born, and it happens at an early age, if the normal aggression of two-year-olds isn’t handled well.

So what makes a child become a bully? Often children who are dealing with difficult situations at home, such as divorce, or in school will bully others as a way to feel more important or in control of things happening in their lives. 

Typically, a schoolyard bully is a child who has low self-esteem and is looking to achieve popularity. Bullies couldn’t exist without victims, and they don’t pick on just anyone; those singled out lack assertiveness and radiate fear long before they ever encounter a bully. No one likes a bully, but no one likes a victim either. Grown-up bullies wreak havoc in their relationships and in the workplace.

The bully can victimize a child or teen: physically, emotionally, sexually, or verbally. Many times the victim of bullying at home becomes the victimizer at school or on the internet. These behaviors are learned.

Many Bullies were diagnosed as having personality disorders such as antisocial personality disorder as well as narcissistic personality disorder. these personality disorders show a lack of empathy and compassion for people and mistreatment of others.

Kids and teens no longer need muscles to bully and torment their peers. Some young people use Web sites, cell phones, instant messaging, chat rooms, blogs and social networking sites as options to harass, threaten and ridicule their peers. What may start as a joke can become very serious once launched into Cyber-Space. The impact on the victim can be devastating and even tragic. In participating in these actions, the bully may have committed a crime, exposed his or her parents to liability or even possibly damaged his or her own prospects for getting into college or landing a job.

Nearly 43% of kids have been bullied online. 1 in 4 has had it happen more than once.
Over 70% of students report seeing frequent bullying online.  Over 80% of teens use a cell phone regularly, making it the most common medium for cyber bullying.Over 68% of teens agree that cyber bullying is serious problem.
Approximately 85% of young people think bullying online is easier to get away with than bullying in person.

Teens that have been bullied have a correlation with an increase in many mental health symptoms including and not limited to: self harm, depression, anxiety, and low self esteem. The more a teen was bullied or victimized the higher the chance of : depression, anxiety, and other symptoms followed. Children that are bullied are twice as likely to be depressed than children that were not bullied.

Over 75% of teens report they have been bullied at one time or another. Bullying can take many forms: verbal, physical, online, rumors and more.

Children and teens have many stressors in life. Youth are struggling to understand their emotional and social world. Adolescents and children are struggling with academics, chores, family obligations, teachers, new schools, homework, peers, self esteem, hormone changes, body image issues, and much more. The last thing a child needs is to deal with bullying.

Children that are bullied need mental health counseling services at a rate of twice those that are not bullied. Bullying is associated with : depression, anxiety, cutting, self harm, and many other psychological mental health disorders.

Cyber bullying is happening with children and teens and is hidden from parents via: instagram, snapchat, Facebook, whatsapp, texting, and other applications on your child’s smartphone or electronic device. Ganging up on someone and victimizing them and humiliating them is abuse and it is not humor. Many children and teens have committed suicide based on cyberbullying. Parents can monitor and discuss above with their children and monitor their digital footprints.

Teens and children are spending between 6-9 hours per day on electronic devices. Youth in America according to a recent study of over 3000 youth show they are spending more time on media and electronic devices including phones than they are sleeping. The cell phone, Tv, You tube videos, cell phone games, texting , instagram, snapchat, video games, netflix , hula are distracting children from homework, exercise, and healthy face to face relationships. Children and Teenagers are in their room jumping from one electronic device to another and it is having a negative impact on learning and grades! I had a news reporter tell me that we do not know the impact of media on children. There are thousands of studies showing that children and teens are out of balance with media use, tv, cell phone use, and video games. The experts state children should be using no more than 1.5 hours per day . This includes the pediatric medical community. So media Health Care Doctors, Psychologists, Researchers, and world experts maintain we must limit the exposure to electronics. It impacts sleep, mood, performance, social skills, academic success and more in a negative manner.

Teenagers between the ages of 13-18 are spending on average nine hours per day on electronics: tv, netflix, texting, you tube, Facebook, instagram,social networking, snapchat, video games, online videos. Teens are rarely maintaining 7 hours of sleep per night during the school week.

Children are also using electronic media at a high rate. Youth ages 9-12 are averaging six hours per day of electronic media use nd this does not include time for homework.

Seventy percent of teens do not believe that watching tv, texting, playing video games, surfing the net impacts their ability to study and learn. Research shows this not to be the case in fact it is the opposite of what the teens believe.

Teen Boys are spending a great deal of time on video games. Male teens spend almost ten times the amount of time on video games and online gaming as well as cell phone gaming. Teen girls spend more time on social media than boys and girls spend more time reading than boys.

Parents are in a power position to set boundaries for: sleep, gaming, texting, Tv, Homework, and more. If parents do not set firm limits than an immature child will be sucked into the vortex of games and entertainment and will be in their rooms drunk with power. Family communication will deteriorate, grades will go south, negative behaviors will become more frequent, family stress will increase, and mental and physical health will be poor.

Being bullied and teens and school age children that are rejected lead to feelings of powerlessness and isolation. Victims often feel an extremely intense desire to regain their power and turn to violent behaviors to regain their power.

Twenty five percent of students are bullied and of these children seventy percent are bullied at school.

Studies show that students that have been bullied often are very likely to be vulnerable to: depression, anxiety, eating disorders, social isolation, sleep issues and disorders, substance and drug dependence and alcohol abuse, cutting, and more mental health issues. Post traumatic stress Disorder and suicide have also been linked to bullying. Long term psychological damage is linked to bullying and abuse ( emotional, verbal, physical, mental).

Gov legislation and laws have not stopped the violence. We have had 50 school shootings since Sandy Hook only a few years ago this is outrageous and sad and tragic.

We must teach children and teens mood management skills, stress management, social skills, healthy way to communicate thoughts and feelings and more. We need to teach children and teenagers: compassion, empathy, kindness, tolerance, respect, and coping skills for life. We must encourage youth to talk about bullying to parents and to share the info with the principal and all teachers and not look the other way. Cyberbullying also must be discussed it is happening with exponential frequency and is not ok.

Obtaining counseling for children and counseling for teens is important to address bullying to help youth learn skills to address this pain and provide parents solutions so your child does not suffer long term psychological disorders and other forms of harm to family, peers, or self.

Schools need to feel safe physically and emotionally for children and teenagers. Schools must be pro active with anti bullying programs and seminars and education on bullying on a regular basis. Schools should devote time to mental health issues since they will ooze out daily in the schools so it must be addressed!

A child that is victimized very likely will grow up and become a victimizer to peers, wives, friends etc. It is important to teach healthy boundaries( physical, mental, emotional) and healthy choices, right from wrong and also make sure your child is safe from bullying.

Lifeworksaz.com counseling has worked with children and teens that have been bullied or are victimizing others helping them create health and success in their lives.

Below another article on Bullying and child and teen mental health issues.

Bullying for teens and school age children that are rejected lead to feelings of powerlessness and isolation. Victims often feel an extremely intense desire to regain their power and turn to violent behaviors to regain their power.

A sixteen year old teen age girl-, who died after getting into a fight with another girl over a boy, was jumped by bullies who slammed her head against a bathroom sink at a school in Delaware Thursday morning. 

A teen shot two students at Antigo High School’s prom this past Saturday. The student had been bullied since middle school! Reports state students had bullied him for years and made fun of his hygiene and called him names

High School 

The latest in a decades-long string of U.S. school shootings drew immediate national attention, as high schools are holding proms across the country.

There is a strong relationship between bullying and violence. Many teens that have committed violent acts and shootings and have killed others have suffered from alienation from their peers in school, neglect, and often a history of abuse. Abuse can be: emotional, physical, or verbal abuse.

Many of the victimizers in bullying deaths and killings at high school are victims of past bullying in and abuse.

www.lifework.com specializes in working to help your child and teen find balance in their life: mentally ( mood, social , behavioral, academic, family dynamics) building self esteem and more. David has expertise working with youth and families for over 15 years. To read more go to his website and read his philosophy and testimonials.

Articles are not to be taken as a substitute for professional advice or counseling.