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Counseling Child Anxiety Disorders Phoenix, Arizona, Scottsdale Arizona

Monday, July 17th, 2017

 

 

Teens are taught to keep in their emotions and boys are told not to cry. Stuffing emotions is extremely unhealthy and must be worked on and processed to create best outcomes.

Many children report high levels of anxiety at school. Children as young as five self harm due to anxiety and stress related to school and academics. Many children do not know how to express their feelings and emotions end up turning into aggression, sadness, anger, tantrums, crying etc. It is vital to teach children to express emotions at a young age before it oozes into an imbalance.

There are many factors that can contribute to anxiety or anxiety disorders: obsessive compulsive disorders, Panic disorders, social anxiety, Phobias, general anxiety, Panic attacks, PTSD Post traumatic stress disorders and more.

It is important to look at many elements in an individuals life: medications, factors during inception and birth, environmental factors, Drugs, marijuana, alcohol, Stressors, Trauma from the past ( emotional, physical, mental), sleep, diet, daily habits, negative cognitions daily, genetics in the family from Mom and Dad as well as other family members and their traumas as well.

 

Many practitioners give meds without addressing the root causes of the anxiety. It is important to look at all the above and more in order to create the best plan to reduce anxiety. I have worked with anxiety disorders for over 15 years and have seen a combination of many elements that exacerbate anxiety disorders. It is vital to look at all the above areas in order to really manage your child’s anxiety or your anxiety as best as possible. Not looking at sleep for example and treating the disorder without a change in sleep will most likely not be very successful since sleep is an important element in mood disorders.

Brain experts believe a diet that is heavy in inflammation food consumption and low in healthy fats affects the risk of obtaining anxiety or anxiety disorders. Anxiety is extremely high in those with high sensitivity to gluten.

Medication is used to treat ADHD , however, research shows that it also leads to anxiety disorders, as well as other symptoms including but not limited to addiction.

There are many tools an anxiety client can learn in order to manage an anxiety disorder be it panic attacks, phobias, generalized anxiety, PTSD, etc.

Some of the research based tools in counseling psychology to manage anxiety are: EMDR, DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Progressive Relaxation, VMBR, Exposure therapy, and mindfulness.

Child anxiety is stressful and painful for families. Activities that once were enjoyable are avoided and parents hear complaints of stomach problems, and various aches and pains, headaches and more. Learning ways to cope with anxiety is important. It is a fine balancing act however avoiding school and avoiding sleeping alone and avoiding new things is not creating a balance for your child or teenager. Forcing a child may be overwhelming and can be a failed approach as well. It is important that parents understand that anxiety can be debilitating and your child may no be manipulating and may not be lazy.

Many children that have behavioral issues like oppositional defiance or conduct disorders also have underlying anxiety that they do not know how to handle or identify. Learning skills to manage anxiety is vital to you child’s success socially as well as academically and behaviorally and emotionally. Most children can not articulate what is going on inside their bodies and minds. They must learn skills and tools to address their anxiety.

Some children can manifest itself in different ways. One way might be to avoid situations that are uncomfortable. Another way might be to escape the situation and this can be seen or perceived as oppositional or defiant when it is really fear based. Behavioral dysregulation is common with children and teens that have anxiety disorders: panic attacks, phobia, social anxiety, PTSD, Post traumatic stress disorder, generalized anxiety disorders , obsessive compulsive disorder and other anxiety disorders.

Children that display temper tantrums, behavioral problems at school, throw things at school, throw themselves down and cry and have full blown outburst may have a profound anxiety disorder however this needs to be assessed by a professional. Anxiety disorders need to be assessed and treated by a professional in mental health care.

Academic pressure and demands in the classroom can trigger anxiety and this will look like disruptive behaviors. The child may feel overwhelmed and anxious and not be able to cope with the teachers request or the assignment. The child might be intelligent however he or she may have a learning challenge or trouble with the task and feel overwhelmed hence unable to do the task and act out behaviorally.

Most teachers are not trained in identifying anxiety disorders and a child or teenager typically will end up in suspension or in the Principals office being punished. This does not address the underlying issue that may be an anxiety disorder.

A child that is diagnosed with ADHD may have an anxiety disorder instead that looks like: impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention however this needs to be evaluated by a professional. A lot of times individuals jump to ADHD diagnosis when really the child or teen is suffering with an anxiety disorder. An anxiety disorder may be primary and for example ADHD is secondary or it may be the other way around. There are a number of other diagnosis as well that may be co-occuring with a child or teens anxiety.

Many adolescent teens are feeling worthless, unhappy, inability to focus or concentrate.

Teens are reporting more problems sleeping and are not receiving adequate sleep.

Children and teens are slow to talk about their distress to parents and parents tend to be slow to respond once finding out their child or teen is suffering.

Parents are not to blame for a child’s mental health issues. Children can have excellent parenting and still suffer from mental health issues.

In colleges and universities throughout the United States the following research was done and this was the mental health results :

The American College Health Association surveyed 100,000 college students at 53 US campuses and found that 84 per cent of US students feel unable to cope, 79 per cent are exhausted, 60 per cent feel very sad and more than half are experiencing overwhelming anxiety.

Obviously teens and college students need to learn coping and stress management tools to address : school, peers, family, work, grades, social situations and much more.

Many teenagers and adolescents as well as college students fear failure and are fearful of their future and need a direction and support to reach their goals. Children as young as 10 are worried about finding a job in many homes and are stressed and anxious.

Cyberbullying and social media can be a stressor and many teens are concerned about their body image with such a huge emphasis on waif models being the norm when most adults know this is not reality. Technology does not create the bully or the poor body image it may magnify the problem. Removing all media may not solve the issue because it is the negative distorted and unhealthy thoughts inside your child or adolescents head that is feeding the negative behaviors and mood. Media can affect our moods however it is up to parents and children and teens to set limits on use and be able to turn it off and find a balance in other activities above and beyond social media and or video games and technology.

 

I have worked with children , teens and families over fifteen years at  Lifeworksaz.com  and many times it is more than just one issues that a child is suffering with it could be: social, self esteem, bullying, relationship with family, and grades. All of these need to addressed so your child can find balance, happiness, and success in their life.

teen anxiety and depression magnified technology , video games, media

Wednesday, November 16th, 2016

Depression and anxiety have risen among teenagers in the UK with more than thirty three percent reporting distress. Depression and anxiety is on the rise among college students and adolescents and children in Phoenix and Scottsdale Arizona and the whole USA.

Rates of depression and anxiety among teenagers have increased by 70 per cent in the past 25 years.

Many adolescent teens are feeling worthless, unhappy, inability to focus or concentrate.

Teens are reporting more problems sleeping and are not receiving adequate sleep.

Children and teens are slow to talk about their distress to parents and parents tend to be slow to respond once finding out their child or teen is suffering.

Parents are not to blame for a child’s mental health issues. Children can have excellent parenting and still suffer from mental health issues.

In colleges and universities throughout the United States the following research was done and this was the mental health results :

The American College Health Association surveyed 100,000 college students at 53 US campuses and found that 84 per cent of US students feel unable to cope, 79 per cent are exhausted, 60 per cent feel very sad and more than half are experiencing overwhelming anxiety.

Obviously teens and college students need to learn coping and stress management tools to address : school, peers, family, work, grades, social situations and much more.

Many teenagers and adolescents as well as college students fear failure and are fearful of their future and need a direction and support to reach their goals. Children as young as 10 are worried about finding a job in many homes and are stressed and anxious.

Cyberbullying and social media can be a stressor and many teens are concerned about their body image with such a huge emphasis on waif models being the norm when most adults know this is not reality. Technology does not create the bully or the poor body image it may magnify the problem. Removing all media may not solve the issue because it is the negative distorted and unhealthy thoughts inside your child or adolescents head that is feeding the negative behaviors and mood. Media can affect our moods however it is up to parents and children and teens to set limits on use and be able to turn it off and find a balance in other activities above and beyond social media and or video games and technology.

There are many things children and parents can do to create health and balance for their child and teen or college student. Finding a healthy balance is key to your youths success. Lifeworks AZ has worked with youth and families over fifteen years in: building self esteem, parenting tips, mood regulation, goal setting, anger management, healthy social skills, reaching goals, behavior modification for youth, autistic youth, highly gifted, learning disabled children and more.

Teen adolescent counseling School, academic, performance Phoenix, Scottsdale Arizona

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016

A child spends a majority of his life in school. A change in your child’s grades is a huge red flag.

A change in academic performance can be emotional or behavioral. It could be due to an unrecognized learning challenge. It could also be a sign that a child is using drugs.

Children who struggled in the first grade with academics were linked with depressive symptoms in the seventh grade. Poor academic skills can set the tone and the belief for how children view themselves in life. Having little success in school was correlated with having little control of outcomes in life. A risk factor for children and teens feeling they do not have control over important outcomes in their life.

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Counseling Boys: ADHD, Depression, Anger Phoenix Scottsdale Arizona

Monday, April 18th, 2016

Boys are isolated and lonely and do not believe they can talk about their pain. Boys are taught not to show emotions. Boys are taught not to cry. Boys are taught to man up.” Boys are taught to conceal feminine qualities like: expressing feelings of fear or sadness. Boys are taught if they do so they are a : sissy etc. Masculinity in society has become a rejection of being feminine. Boys are told its not ok to express feelings . Boys are shamed into expressing pain so they live behind an emotional mask and feel they can not express their true feelings.

Boys are called homophobic names and called fairies and much worse. Boy’s are shamed and told not to be a girl. What message are we teaching boys? We teach boys not to have compassion or empathy. Boys are being taught domination and aggression in the media and in video games.

Many boys do not know how to take their masks off. What do you let people see and what do you not let people see? Boys walk on daily with a poker face everyday. Boys do not feel safe to talk about their pain. Teen boys are stuffing their emotions in attempt to be a “man” .Boys are holding in: sadness, anger, and pain. Sharing these emotions is vital for physical and emotional health.

Boys are less likely to go to college and more likely to drop out of school. Boys are more likely to be diagnosed as ADHD due to holding in feelings and emotions.

The school system is vital in believing in boys and either supporting them or labeling them defective and abandoning them. It is vital to find out what is going on behind the boy’s behaviors if they are acting out.

Over 50% of all boys have been physically abused and one out of six boys have been sexually abused.

 

DRINKING 34% boys age 12 have started drinking. They do it to treat emotional pain and can not put there feelings into words so they use alcohol and drugs and marijuana to blot it out. The problem is the pain still remains and this is where addictions are created in boys that will become men.

Boys are watching 40 hours of TV and playing violent Video games 20 hours per week on average. Media images have an impact on boys behavior this is an absolute fact! Boys idolize video game characters that can not express themselves emotionally. Anger is the only emotion allowed. Video characters can not be honest around those around them. Boy’s brain are being digitally re wired. The violent games are the most addictive games. Boys can escape reality however will be impacted by this violence in a negative way when their pain oozes out in unhealthy ways: anger, violence, addictive behaviors and more. All this is supported by research.

Boys are also watching a great deal of pornography at a high level. Boys learn to objectify woman via pornography. Boys are watching sexism and brutality and this is why it is difficult for boys to develop healthy relationships with a woman. Pornography is teaching boys the wrong message. Boys see sexism and brutality!!!!! Society is teaching boys to objectify girls and not see their humanity…very sad.

Society teachs boys to reject feminity and then wonder why boys are disrespectful. We are surprised that boys do not see woman as fully human. Boys are being set up to fail with cultural norms and need strong healthy parenting and counseling.

Boys will act out and become aggressive before we might see depression. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in boys. Boys have five times the suicide rate of girls.

Most boys and teens under great pressure to act tough and strong and they learn to not express their emotion or pain. This is creating huge societal problems: homicide, violence, drug use, addictions, relationship issues and more. We are paying a huge price to walk around with a mask on 24-7 and eventually that mask will come off and rear its ugly self if we do not teach boys: compassion, mood regulation, self esteem, healthy communication, self love, respect, empathy and more.

Articles are not to be taken as a substitute for professional advice or counseling.