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Anger, Hostility, Cognition and stroke risk.

Friday, July 11th, 2014

Feeling cynical and hostile toward others may double the risk of having a stroke in middle-aged and older adults, according to a study out Thursday.

The research in Stroke, a journal of the American Heart Association, also found that depression and high stress increased stroke risk.

For the study, more than 6,700 adults aged 45 to 84 answered questionnaires about their state of mind and behavior.

These surveys assessed chronic stress, depressive symptoms, anger and hostility over two years, and low scores indicated a lesser frequency of these feelings.

Subjects reported no heart disease at the beginning of the study.

They were followed for between eight and 11 years, during which time 147 had strokes and 48 transient ischemic attack (TIAs), a temporary blockage of blood flow to the brain.

Researchers found that those with the highest hostility scores — measured by assessing a person’s cynical expectations of other people’s motives — were more than twice as likely to have a stroke or TIA, compared to the lowest scorers.

Similarly, high scores on depressive symptoms meant an 86 percent higher risk, and the chronically stressed faced a 59 percent higher risk of stroke or TIA.

Perhaps surprisingly, anger was not associated with any risk of increased stroke.

The study included a broad mix of Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic and Asian people.

The associations between psychology and stroke remained even after researchers accounted for age, race, sex, health behaviors and other known risk factors of stroke.

“There’s such a focus on traditional risk factors — cholesterol levels, blood pressure, smoking and so forth — and those are all very important, but studies like this one show that psychological characteristics are equally important,” said lead author Susan Everson-Rose, associate professor of medicine at the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis.

“Given our aging population, it’s important to consider these other factors that might play a role in disease risk.” (AFP Washington)

angry people I’ve worked with have suffered from significant self-image deficits

anger covers up the pain of our “core hurts.” These key distressful emotions include feeling ignored, unimportant, accused, guilty, untrustworthy, devalued, rejected, powerless, unlovable—or even unfit for human contact.

we all need to find ways of comforting or reassuring ourselves when our self-esteem is endangered—whether through criticism, dismissal, or any other outside stimuli that feels invalidating and so revives old self-doubts. I

If, deep down, we still feel bad about who we are, our deficient sense of self simply won’t be able to withstand such external threats.

our anger potently serves to invalidate whoever or whatever led us to feel invalidated. In adamantly disconfirming the legitimacy of the menacing external force, we self-righteously proclaim the superiority of our own viewpoint. Thus is our critical need for emotional/mental security restored.

Contrary to feeling weak or out of control, the experience of anger can foster a sense of invulnerability—even invincibility.

While such individuals may desperately yearn for the secure attachment bond that eluded them in childhood, they will be wary of openly expressing such needs and desire. Doing so to a partner who might respond negatively to them could reopen ancient wounds.

It’s only logical that if a child’s caretakers proved distressingly unresponsive, unreliable or untrustworthy, the “adult child” is likely to be gun-shy, or defensively cultivate a certain emotional detachment, in intimate relationships.

The primal fear of these individuals is that if they let their guard down and made themselves truly vulnerable—freely revealing what their heart still aches for—a disapproving or rejecting response from their mate might lead them, almost literally, to bleed to death. And so (however ultimately self-defeating) the protective role of anger in non-disclosure and distancing can feel not simply necessary but absolutely essential.

If our attachment bond with our original caretakers was tenuous or insecure, it’s only reasonable that one of the least perilous way to “attach” to another would be through a distance-moderating anger that helped control our sense of risk about such ties. Uncomfortable about getting too close, yet apprehensive about a total break in our attachment, our being easily provoked by our partner may become the only viable solution to our dilemma—however dysfunctional and unsatisfying this solution might be.

People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They can’t take things in stride, and they’re particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake.

people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications.

Remind yourself that the world is “not out to get you,” you’re just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Do this each time you feel anger getting the best of you, and it’ll help you get a more balanced perspective. Angry people tend to demand things: fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed when we don’t get them, but angry people demand them, and when their demands aren’t met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations into desires. In other words, saying, “I would like” something is healthier than saying, “I demand” or “I must have”

The first thing to do if you’re in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don’t say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your “significant other” wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your activities, don’t retaliate by painting your partner as a jailer, a warden, or an albatross around your neck.

It’s natural to get defensive when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back. Instead, listen to what’s underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don’t let your anger—or a partner’s—let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.

YOU have a hard time compromising. Is it hard for you to understand other people’s points of view, and even harder to concede a point? If you grew up in a family where anger was out of control, you may remember how the angry person got his or her way by being the loudest and most demanding. Compromising might bring up scary feelings of failure and vulnerability.

You have trouble expressing emotions other than anger. Do you pride yourself on being tough and in control, never letting your guard down? Do you feel that emotions like fear, guilt, or shame don’t apply to you? Everyone has those emotions, and if you think you don’t, you may be using anger as a cover for them.

You view different opinions and viewpoints as a personal challenge to you. Do you believe that your way is always right and get angry when others disagree?If you have a strong need to be in control or a fragile ego, you may interpret other perspectives as a challenge to your authority, rather than simply a different way of looking at things.

If you are uncomfortable with many emotions, disconnected, or stuck on an angry one-note response to everything, it might do you some good to get back in touch with your feelings. Emotional awareness is the key to self-understanding and success in life. Without the ability to recognize, manage, and deal with the full range of human emotions, you’ll inevitably spin into confusion, isolation, and self-do

When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself:

▪    How important is it in the grand scheme of things?

▪    Is it really worth getting angry about it?

▪    Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?

▪    Is my response appropriate to the situation?

▪    Is there anything I can do about it?

Is taking action worth my time?

▪    Make the relationship your priority. Maintaining and strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument, should always be your first priority. Be respectful of the other person and his or her viewpoint.

▪    Focus on the present. Once you are in the heat of arguing, it’s easy to start throwing past grievances into the mix. Rather than looking to the past and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the present to solve the problem.

▪    Choose your battles. Conflicts can be draining, so it’s important to consider whether the issue is really worthy of your time and energy. If you pick your battles rather than fighting over every little thing, others will take you more seriously when you are upset.

▪    Be willing to forgive. Resolving conflict is impossible if you’re unwilling or unable to forgive. Resolution lies in releasing the urge to punish, which can never compensate for our losses and only adds to our injury by further depleting and draining our lives.

Know when to let something go.

Anxiety anxiety disorders

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Anxiety manifests itself in our physical body.

We can learn to become aware of muscle tension created by anxiety.
Learning progressive relaxation, imagery, and visualization will
reduce muscle tension and help alleviate anxiety.

Diaphramatic breathing and hatha yoga breathing are very important in
reducing anxiety.

Relaxing the body is a huge component to anxiety relief.

David R Abrams
Life Works AZ PLLC
David@Lifeworksaz.com
602 575 4030

Coping with Anger Phoenix Arizona

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

Anger Management Therapy

Thursday, August 13th, 2009

We are all very angry and it is ooozing out at the town hall meetings in relation to Health Care.

It is anger from not being heard. Do we really have a voice in politics? Are the politicians going to push through what they want anyway…

It is hard to be a voter when Congress pushes through: bailout money for Autos, bailout money for wall street, bailout money for banking when a majority of people were against it.

Americans need to be heard and valued. If Americans are not heard we will need alot of anger management counselinga nd anger management therapy to cope.

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Tuesday, June 16th, 2009

Many children and teens that are angry display the following behaviors: argues w adults, resentful, loses cool, defiance, blames others for their mistake, easily annoyed, lies, steals, fights, graffitii, tagging, destroys property, verbally cruel, verbally abusive, swears and much more.

Anger, hurt, and fear always go together even if a child or adolescent is feeling only one emotion.

If a child and adolescent can work through the anger, the hurt rises to the top and can be expressed. The fear can then be looked at and processed.

Many children and adolescents learn to stuff or deny their anger, however, it ends up oozing out in many unhealthy ways.

Children and teens can learn healthy ways to expree their feelings of pain and anger and learn healthy coping skills for life.

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