Developmental psychologist state that toddlers that use physical aggression to get what they want are similar to typical 18 year old violent criminals .
Dangerous criminals do not turn violent according to mental health experts . This finding has been replicated in several research studies throughout the world .

Aggression and aggressive behavior starts as toddlers. Children learn through conditioning . We learn to use words to express ourselves and learn self control. Children learn to communicate vs using aggression .

Children learn strategies to meet their needs at age 3 . Children at 3 learn to assess situations and choose among what learned behaviors he or she can use to get what he or she desires .

Children that have aggressive / physical parenting have a higher propensity to use aggression in their daily behaviors .

Children will model parents communication techniques . If grabbing a child is your technique he or she will learn to grab siblings , peers , and family . At times their is a genetic component however a child can learn to control behaviors through behavior plans and conditioning .

Parents that yell loud and often will many times see a child that tells loud as well. Talking in a soft gentle voice with a behavior plan in place will create desired results for a life time .

Teenagers from all walks of life who believe people can’t change react more aggressively to a peer conflict than those who think people can change. And teaching them that people have the potential to change can reduce these aggressive reactions. Many children and teens see things in black and white categories. A person is either good or bad their is no grey areas. Cognitive distortions or twisted thinking is the root of many behavioral issues, mood issues, communication, social issues as well as aggressive behaviors. Individual counseling can address unhealthy thinking to reduce aggression. Lifeworksaz has worked with children ages 5-18 in this process.
Parents can learn behavior modification techniques at lifeworksaz so your child will not act out at school and at home with siblings and family members . Individual and family counseling show the best evidence based results for children . The family system must change  to obtain the desired results . Positive results and success can happen in a short time with an expert that sets the necessary treatment plan and knows how to execute it and has a history of expertise in this field . LifeworksAZ  has a great deal of experience in creating desired changes.

There is not one component to behavior problems, anger, disrespect, or
mood regulation issues in children, however, there are a few things
that are important. Eating a healthy diet can help balance out mood .

Eating a well balanced diet daily characterized by vegetables, fruits,
berries, poultry, fish,was associated with a lower prevalence of
depressive symptoms and a lower risk of depression. Eating folate is
associated with a decreased risk in depressive symptoms. Vegetables,
whole grains, and fruits are important dietary sources of folate. Eating
processed foods such as: meat that is processed, sugar, manufactured
foods, non organic foods, foods with additives, sugary foods that are
not natural, were associated with depression and depressive symptoms.

Many parents are concerned about side effects of medications and would
prefer a natural approach. Exercise has shown to reduce anxiety and
depressive symptoms in children , teens, and adults. Exercise impacts
the neurotransmitters in the brain and helps re establish positive
behaviors. Exercise that
lasts 30 minutes or more is best however even small amounts of exercise
can help regulate: hormones that cause stress and depressive moods.
Children
and teens that exercise 5 times a week will have a tool to manage
depression and mood. It is one tool children and teenagers can use
however there
are many other tools and skills that children and teens can use to help
manage stress and depressed moods as well as anxiety and anger.
www.Lifeworks AZ
has expertise working with adolescents and children in : Phoenix,
Scottsdale, Anthem, Chandler, Glendale, Peoria, and Ahwattuke over the
past decade.

Anger creates stress which can lead to physical symptoms including but not limited to : headaches , heart pain and problems , high blood pressure , stomach aches , back aches and more.
It is important to learn how anger affects your body and this will help recognize when you are becoming angry .

Some teenagers and children : cry , feel their face getting hot , grind their teeth , notice heart is beating very fast, break out in a rash all over their body or in certain parts of the body , have difficulty breathing or feel short of breath , get stomach pains or aches , sweat , have tics or twitching , feel dizzy , sick to the stomach , roll eyes, and more .

Knowing what your specific body responses is just one step in becoming aware of when you need to cool it or manage your anger .

There are many counseling techniques used to help manage anger. Anger does not have to turn into fighting and yelling and physical aggression with your family , friends , at school and more .

One big reason it is important to deal with anger is that if left unmanaged it can often turn into addictions like alcohol and marihuana use as well as other unhealthy habits and addictive behaviors .

Lifeworks Az therapist and counseling has expertise working with teens , and children in Scottsdale , Phoenix , Tempe , Arcadia and more .

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David@Lifeworksaz.com
602 575 4030

Do not let your anger get in the way of your hopes and dreams.

Many teens struggle with their anger and self sabotage their goals.

I have seen this many times with teens and teachers where it becomes a
power struggle.

Do not let your anger destroy your future!

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David R Abrams
Life Works AZ PLLC
David@Lifeworksaz.com
602 575 4030

Many teens get angry! Anger is legal in the United States of America. You have the right to feel angry and you have the right to express your anger. Expressing your anger in a healthy way is key so you do not: victimize others, hurt others, disrespect family, disrespect your teachers, disrespect yourself, or break the law.

There are many ways teens can express anger in healthy ways. The first key is becoming aware that you are angry and you can usually feel it in your body: muscles, expressions, stomach, feeling hot or warm, eyes, jaw etc.

Expressing your anger in healthy ways can be: hiking, exercise, skateboarding, writing, creating music, singing, playing an instrument, punching a pillow, taking a relaxing shower, venting without hurting or attacking others, writing an angry letter and ripping it up before it is sent.

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Many parents have challenges with defiant and disrespectful teens. There are many things that can contribute to a teens behavior.

Many adolescents are angry and have not learned healthy ways to cope with their emotion or how to express their emotions in positive and healthy ways.

Many teens are not receiving adequate sleep. A large group get involved in texting on their cell all night and this impacts their mood and behavior at school.

Many teens are lonely and bored and get involved with peers that are not involved in healthy and productive activities. They learn negative behaviors and this spills over at the home.

Teens get stressed about family situations, divorces, family issues and more. Adolescents also get stressed about school grades and school challenges.

Adolescents are going through hormonal changes and developing. Social skills, healthy communication, self esteem, healthy choices, healthy boundaries, and balance are areas teens can improve upon as well.

Behavior change in your teen can happen rapidly with support and a consistent plan to address the above areas and more. Parents must stay positive and take action steps.

Many children and Teens are taught that anger is “bad” and should not be expressed. This is one of the most unhealthy things a parent can teach a child or teen. Healthy emotions need expressed on a daily basis. If they are not they will multiply and ooze out into unhealthy behaviors:

Aggression

Verbal abuse

Destroying Property

Headaches, body aches

Addictive behaviors

Drugs

Alcohol

Self Destructive Behaviors

Physical fighting

and much more…………..

A fifteen year old adolescent in New York is being held in Psychiatric hospital after he stockpiled: gasoline, propane, fuses, and a machete for a planned attack at a New York High School on the anniversary of the Columbine High School Tragedy.

The boy was angry and harbored grudges against classmates. It is important to talk to youth and find out what is going on in their world. It is vital to find out how they are feeling.

There are many components that lead toward anger, however, I want to share a simple but challenging concept that help reduce angry outburst and manage anger.

Judgments can destroy relationships and feed anger. Judgments are made that have no factual support to base the judgment upon. Many judgments are based on emotions or thoughts that are distorted.

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Judgment and defense may seem like the only way one can keep safety and peace. This can limit ones life. Everytime you analyze , judge , etc, you are not experiencing love or friendship or peace.

Frequent loss of temper over small issues,
Frequent physical fighting with friends, acquaintances and family members,
Damaging property while in a fit of anger,
Use of drugs and/or alcohol,
Written plans for violent acts,
Carrying a weapon(s),
Been the victim of school bullies,
Gang affiliations,
Failure to acknowledge the feelings of others
Fascination with weapons and
Cruelty to animals.

Many teenagers suffer from a low sense of self or self-esteem. Teens can be hard themselves with the negative messages they bombard themselves with daily. Feeilngs of inadequacy, rejection, fear; thoughts of” being bad”, “not good enough”, not loved, “not worthy”, “not valuable”, create an angry child or teenager or an adult.
Teaching anger management skills, life skills, building self esteem, changing negative thoughts and cognitions and learning skills to do so will help a child and teen become a healthy balanced young adult.