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Teen Counseling Phoenix Arizona

Saturday, October 9th, 2021

Children and Teens often spend too much time online: social media, instagram Tik Tok, Snapchat, twitter and more. Teens are also spending a majority of time playing video games. I see many children and teens that spend more time playing video games than they do : studying, exercising, or attending school. Teens are on smartphones too all hours of the night texting and watching nextlix or you tube or watching video games on twitch. These children that are spending high levels on the screens are very often imbalanced. They often are not getting enough sleep,. There mood is not in balance. They are not developing there social skills and this is vital for friendships and a career as well as correlated highly with happiness in life for adults. It is essential to set firm limits on screen time and encourage family time as well as physical exercise in your child and teens life and much more.

College students reading this story and others online for hours may become more anxious and less happy.

A new Kent State University study says college students who spend hours each day online, texting or talking on cellphones are more anxious, less happy and get lower grades.

The Ohio researchers say this appears to be the first study correlating cellphone use to anxiety and happiness.

The study was done by Andrew Lepp, Jacob Barkley and Aryn Karpinski.

The researchers interviewed 536 students representing 82 different majors.

The students recorded daily cellphone use. Each took validated social science tests that measure anxiety and satisfaction with their life, or happiness.

“The lower frequency users use their phone to keep in touch, check the web and update Facebook but they can put it away and get on with other tasks,” Lepp told The (Cleveland) Plain Dealer (bit.ly/1jO6PP7).

“The higher users are not able to control it and are glued to the cellphone. They need to unplug and find some personal time where they can disconnect from the network,” he said.

“You need time to be alone with your thoughts, recover from the daily stressors in a way that doesn’t involve electronic media.”

The researchers selected college students for their study because they are the first generation to grow up immersed in the technology.

The research grew out of a study last summer by Lepp and Barkley on the relationship between cellphone use and cardiorespiratory fitness. Those results showed that students who had higher cellphone use were less fit.

“As part of that study, we interviewed students and some said that after a day of 100 texts they felt stressed out,” Lepp said. “They said they felt a sense of obligation to remain constantly connected to the social network.”

Participants allowed the researchers to retrieve their cumulative grade point average. The researchers measured texts and calls sent and received and overall use.

“What we found was a strong relationship that high cellphone use anxiety measured significantly higher than low cellphone use,” Lepp said.

“In class, students look you right in the eye while texting under the table,” he said. “I have been informally tracking those students for a couple of years, and they do not do as well as those that put the phone in the backpack.”Read more here: http://www.miamiherald.com/2013/12/14/3817983/ohio-study-heavy-online-use-can.html#storylink

Children and Teens often spend too much time online: social media, instagram Tik Tok, Snapchat, twitter and more. Teens are also spending a majority of time playing video games. I see many children and teens that spend more time playing video games than they do : studying, exercising, or attending school. Teens are on smartphones too all hours of the night texting and watching nextlix or you tube or watching video games on twitch. These children that are spending high levels on the screens are very often imbalanced. They often are not getting enough sleep,. There mood is not in balance. They are not developing there social skills and this is vital for friendships and a career as well as correlated highly with happiness in life for adults.

lifeworksaz.com has been working with children and teens and parents for over 20 years with a wide array of challenges such as: anxiety disorders, Depression, emotional disorders, social disorders, ASD, ADHD, ADD, self esteem, and much more.

Teen Counseling Phoenix, Scottsdale Arizona

Saturday, October 9th, 2021

Counseling for anxiety can be extremely helpful. There are many skills and tools that adults and children can learn to manage anxiety through counseling therapy and coaching in Phoenix and Scottsdale Arizona at www.lifeworksaz.com. Counseling will teach you ways to feel calm and safe during these anxiety ridden times especially with the corona virus pandemic and all the stress with it. www.Lifeworksaz.com can provide phone counseling or video counseling during this challenging time that is secure and Hippa Compliant.

Anxiety and stress manifest itself in different ways. Many avoid social situations due to social anxiety. Some people have panic attacks in public and this is terrifying. Individuals that have experienced past Traumatic events be it: physical or emotional or sexual abuse may experience PTSD ( Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). PTSD is observed frequently with soldiers that have been to war and victims of physical abuse and emotional and sexual abuse. Some people experience phobias and many other anxiety issues as well. Physicians can prescribe medications however most research shows that counseling and therapy is vital in managing anxiety.

There are many psychotherapies or techniques used to address anxiety, stress, and anxiety disorders.

The most important pieces when dealing with anxiety disorders is finding a mental health practitioner/ therapist, that makes you feel comfortable as well as they have experience and expertise working with the issues you are having related to your stress and anxiety.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one therapy that is used in treating Anxiety Disorders. CBT looks at negative thoughts that are often not rooted in facts and research when individuals are thinking. Cognitive Behavioral therapy looks at the thoughts to see how potentially twisted or distorted thoughts are impacting your feelings regarding a person or activity or event or yourself. By modifying distorted thoughts anxiety and stress can be managed.

VMBR Visual Motor Behavior Reversal Is a technique that is used to create a video that is played in your mind like a short video clip. It can be used to induce relaxation as well as to enhance performance. It could be to create positive performance: playing sports, making a speech, getting on a plane, going into a store, driving a car, attending a club or social event and much more. VMBR is used by elite athletes throughout the world.

Hypnosis is a technique that is used for panic attacks, stress management, and anxiety disorders. Hypnosis is a technique based on mental focus and diaphragmatic or Belly breathing just like other relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation etc. Hypnosis will allow you to relax by focusing your attention more and more narrowly. It could be focus on a single word or a sound or a picture or an image or a sensation. This will allow you to calm your inner dialogue and help your whole body relax as well. Research shows that people with stress and anxiety disorders have the ability to be hypnotized and are good candidates for hypnosis. Hypnosis uses the same process that creates panic to induce peace, relaxing, and a feeling of tranquility.

Another powerful research based technique that is used is progressive Relaxation. Progressive Relaxation was developed by Jacobsen in 1920 so it has been used for almost 100 years. Progressive relaxation inviolves systematically tensing muscle groups from head to toe to induce relaxation in the body. Diaphramatic breathing is also used while using progressive relaxation.

There are many components that can feed anxiety disorders. There may be a genetic component that has been passed down from parents or grandparents or further down the lone in the DNA pool. There are also environmental issues that can contribute to anxiety and stress: divorce, high conflict , abuse, Emotional abuse, verbal abuse, Sexual abuse, Financial issues, Learning disabilities, Medical health issues, Mental health disorders, bullying, past trauma, social issues, self esteem issues, social and interpersonal issues, emotional and behavioral issues can feed anxiety and stress.

There are many research based techniques used in therapy to facilitate mood and anxiety management for adults and children. Not all approaches may be a fit for you or a child or teenager. It is always best to work with someone who has a wide array of approaches in that if one therapy does not work the practitioner can use other techniques in their tool bag of expertise treating anxiety disorders and stress related issues. Some techniques used may be cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, VMBR, Exposure therapy, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Talk therapy and more.

Research shows that having rapport with your practitioner is one of the most vital pieces of what creates change in therapy and counseling for a child or an adult. Research by Miller and other research experts in the field have looked at over 100 years of counseling and what works and what does not work. Obviously someone who is a professional and has experience is important as well as the child or adult being positive and having hope and an expectancy that counseling will help are also very important according to research by Duncan and Miller in Heroic Client

Almost 20 Percent of adults in the USA have anxiety so do not feel alone it is becoming more and more common in our stressful society in the USA. Many teens would like to avoid or not acknowledge their anxiety and this is not the solution. The more the teen ignores the more they find that it is interrupting many areas of life.

The more children and teens open up about: anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, the more we can create strategies and coping mechanisms to manage or eliminate the anxious symptoms.

There are many techniques and tools your child can learn to empower him or herself and feel confident and peaceful and be able to do the things he or she wants to do in life.

There are many factors that can contribute to anxiety or anxiety disorders: obsessive compulsive disorders, Panic disorders, social anxiety, Phobias, general anxiety, Panic attacks, PTSD Post traumatic stress disorders and more.

It is important to look at many elements in an individuals life: medications, factors during inception and birth, environmental factors, Drugs, marijuana, alcohol, Stressors, Trauma from the past ( emotional, physical, mental), sleep, diet, daily habits, negative cognitions daily, genetics in the family from Mom and Dad as well as other family members and their traumas as well.

Many practitioners give meds without addressing the root causes of the anxiety. It is important to look at all the above and more in order to create the best plan to reduce anxiety. I have worked with anxiety disorders for over 15 years and have seen a combination of many elements that exacerbate anxiety disorders. It is vital to look at all the above areas in order to really manage your child’s anxiety or your anxiety as best as possible. Not looking at sleep for example and treating the disorder without a change in sleep will most likely not be very successful since sleep is an important element in mood disorders.

Brain experts believe a diet that is heavy in inflammation food consumption and low in healthy fats affects the risk of obtaining anxiety or anxiety disorders. Anxiety is extremely high in those with high sensitivity to gluten.

Medication is used to treat ADHD , however, research shows that it also leads to anxiety disorders, as well as other symptoms including but not limited to addiction.

There are many tools an anxiety client can learn in order to manage an anxiety disorder be it panic attacks, phobias, generalized anxiety, PTSD, etc.

Some of the research based tools in counseling psychology to manage anxiety are: EMDR, DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Progressive Relaxation, VMBR, Exposure therapy, and mindfulness.

Child anxiety is stressful and painful for families. Activities that once were enjoyable are avoided and parents hear complaints of stomach problems, and various aches and pains, headaches and more. Learning ways to cope with anxiety is important. It is a fine balancing act however avoiding school and avoiding sleeping alone and avoiding new things is not creating a balance for your child or teenager. Forcing a child may be overwhelming and can be a failed approach as well. It is important that parents understand that anxiety can be debilitating and your child may no be manipulating and may not be lazy.

Many children that have behavioral issues like oppositional defiance or conduct disorders also have underlying anxiety that they do not know how to handle or identify. Learning skills to manage anxiety is vital to you child’s success socially as well as academically and behaviorally and emotionally. Most children can not articulate what is going on inside their bodies and minds. They must learn skills and tools to address their anxiety.

Some children can manifest itself in different ways. One way might be to avoid situations that are uncomfortable. Another way might be to escape the situation and this can be seen or perceived as oppositional or defiant when it is really fear based. Behavioral dysregulation is common with children and teens that have anxiety disorders: panic attacks, phobia, social anxiety, PTSD, Post traumatic stress disorder, generalized anxiety disorders , obsessive compulsive disorder and other anxiety disorders.

Children that display temper tantrums, behavioral problems at school, throw things at school, throw themselves down and cry and have full blown outburst may have a profound anxiety disorder however this needs to be assessed by a professional. Anxiety disorders need to be assessed and treated by a professional in mental health care.

Academic pressure and demands in the classroom can trigger anxiety and this will look like disruptive behaviors. The child may feel overwhelmed and anxious and not be able to cope with the teachers request or the assignment. The child might be intelligent however he or she may have a learning challenge or trouble with the task and feel overwhelmed hence unable to do the task and act out behaviorally.

Most teachers are not trained in identifying anxiety disorders and a child or teenager typically will end up in suspension or in the Principals office being punished. This does not address the underlying issue that may be an anxiety disorder.

A child that is diagnosed with ADHD may have an anxiety disorder instead that looks like: impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention however this needs to be evaluated by a professional. A lot of times individuals jump to ADHD diagnosis when really the child or teen is suffering with an anxiety disorder. An anxiety disorder may be primary and for example ADHD is secondary or it may be the other way around. There are a number of other diagnosis as well that may be co-occuring with a child or teens anxiety.

It is important to find a professional that has daily experience working with anxiety and children and teens . Children and teens can learn tools and skills to manage and cope with anxiety and other disorders. Parents can learn skills as well to help create success and balance in your child’s life. David Abrams MAPC, LPC, CAGS www.lifeworksaz.com has over 15 years experience working with families and youth treating anxiety disorders. www.Lifeworksaz.com has testimonials and more information.

There are many other techniques used to manage anxiety disorders however these are some very powerful techniques that are used.

Panic attacks are a form of anxiety and many American Children, teens and adults feel the symptoms of anxiety and stress in life. Balancing school, work, family, sleep, and more can be overwhelming and anxiety creeps in to peoples lives. Anxiety can have a genetic component however anxiety and panic attacks can also have environmental components. Some environmental components can be: family conflict, relationship challenges, bullying, emotional abuse, grief and loss, divorce, academic stressors, stress to find a career, adoption, past abuse, physical abuse, trauma, financial issues, and much more. Changing schools and moving can be a huge stressor for youth and adults as well.

Anxiety and panic attacks can be generated by taking drugs and smoking marijuana. There is a great deal of worldwide research to support the above. Yes many people will state they feel relaxed when smoking marijuana however there are many whom report symptoms of anxiety and panic attacks and they smoke marijuana daily or more.

Receiving adequate sleep and a healthy diet is also very important to managing stress. The body must be treated with exercise and a healthy diet to manage stress. Some clients report feeling anxious from prescribed medications and many have the potential side effects listed on the medication as well.

Teens are taught to keep in their emotions and boys are told not to cry. Stuffing emotions is extremely unhealthy and must be worked on and processed to create best outcomes.

Many children report high levels of anxiety at school. Children as young as five self harm due to anxiety and stress related to school and academics. Many children do not know how to express their feelings and emotions end up turning into aggression, sadness, anger, tantrums, crying etc. It is vital to teach children to express emotions at a young age before it oozes into an imbalance.

There are many factors that can contribute to anxiety or anxiety disorders: obsessive compulsive disorders, Panic disorders, social anxiety, Phobias, general anxiety, Panic attacks, PTSD Post traumatic stress disorders and more.

It is important to look at many elements in an individuals life: medications, factors during inception and birth, environmental factors, Drugs, marijuana, alcohol, Stressors, Trauma from the past ( emotional, physical, mental), sleep, diet, daily habits, negative cognitions daily, genetics in the family from Mom and Dad as well as other family members and their traumas as well.

Many practitioners give meds without addressing the root causes of the anxiety. It is important to look at all the above and more in order to create the best plan to reduce anxiety. I have worked with anxiety disorders for over 15 years and have seen a combination of many elements that exacerbate anxiety disorders. It is vital to look at all the above areas in order to really manage your child’s anxiety or your anxiety as best as possible. Not looking at sleep for example and treating the disorder without a change in sleep will most likely not be very successful since sleep is an important element in mood disorders.

Brain experts believe a diet that is heavy in inflammation food consumption and low in healthy fats affects the risk of obtaining anxiety or anxiety disorders. Anxiety is extremely high in those with high sensitivity to gluten.

Medication is used to treat ADHD , however, research shows that it also leads to anxiety disorders, as well as other symptoms including but not limited to addiction.

There are many tools an anxiety client can learn in order to manage an anxiety disorder be it panic attacks, phobias, generalized anxiety, PTSD, etc.

Some of the research based tools in counseling psychology to manage anxiety are: EMDR, DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Progressive Relaxation, VMBR, Exposure therapy, and mindfulness.

Child anxiety is stressful and painful for families. Activities that once were enjoyable are avoided and parents hear complaints of stomach problems, and various aches and pains, headaches and more. Learning ways to cope with anxiety is important. It is a fine balancing act however avoiding school and avoiding sleeping alone and avoiding new things is not creating a balance for your child or teenager. Forcing a child may be overwhelming and can be a failed approach as well. It is important that parents understand that anxiety can be debilitating and your child may no be manipulating and may not be lazy.

Many children that have behavioral issues like oppositional defiance or conduct disorders also have underlying anxiety that they do not know how to handle or identify. Learning skills to manage anxiety is vital to you child’s success socially as well as academically and behaviorally and emotionally. Most children can not articulate what is going on inside their bodies and minds. They must learn skills and tools to address their anxiety.

Some children can manifest itself in different ways. One way might be to avoid situations that are uncomfortable. Another way might be to escape the situation and this can be seen or perceived as oppositional or defiant when it is really fear based. Behavioral dysregulation is common with children and teens that have anxiety disorders: panic attacks, phobia, social anxiety, PTSD, Post traumatic stress disorder, generalized anxiety disorders , obsessive compulsive disorder and other anxiety disorders.

Children that display temper tantrums, behavioral problems at school, throw things at school, throw themselves down and cry and have full blown outburst may have a profound anxiety disorder however this needs to be assessed by a professional. Anxiety disorders need to be assessed and treated by a professional in mental health care.

Academic pressure and demands in the classroom can trigger anxiety and this will look like disruptive behaviors. The child may feel overwhelmed and anxious and not be able to cope with the teachers request or the assignment. The child might be intelligent however he or she may have a learning challenge or trouble with the task and feel overwhelmed hence unable to do the task and act out behaviorally.

Most teachers are not trained in identifying anxiety disorders and a child or teenager typically will end up in suspension or in the Principals office being punished. This does not address the underlying issue that may be an anxiety disorder.

A child that is diagnosed with ADHD may have an anxiety disorder instead that looks like: impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention however this needs to be evaluated by a professional. A lot of times individuals jump to ADHD diagnosis when really the child or teen is suffering with an anxiety disorder. An anxiety disorder may be primary and for example ADHD is secondary or it may be the other way around. There are a number of other diagnosis as well that may be co-occuring with a child or teens anxiety.

Many adolescent teens are feeling worthless, unhappy, inability to focus or concentrate.

Teens are reporting more problems sleeping and are not receiving adequate sleep.

Children and teens are slow to talk about their distress to parents and parents tend to be slow to respond once finding out their child or teen is suffering.

Parents are not to blame for a child’s mental health issues. Children can have excellent parenting and still suffer from mental health issues.

In colleges and universities throughout the United States the following research was done and this was the mental health results :

The American College Health Association surveyed 100,000 college students at 53 US campuses and found that 84 percent of US students feel unable to cope, 79per cent are exhausted, 60 per cent feel very sad and more than half are experiencing overwhelming anxiety.

Obviously teens and college students need to learn coping and stress management tools to address : school, peers, family, work, grades, social situations and much more.

Many teenagers and adolescents as well as college students fear failure and are fearful of their future and need a direction and support to reach their goals. Children as young as 10 are worried about finding a job in many homes and are stressed and anxious.

Cyberbullying and social media can be a stressor and many teens are concerned about their body image with such a huge emphasis on waif models being the norm when most adults know this is not reality. Technology does not create the bully or the poor body image it may magnify the problem. Removing all media may not solve the issue because it is the negative distorted and unhealthy thoughts inside your child or adolescents head that is feeding the negative behaviors and mood. Media can affect our moods however it is up to parents and children and teens to set limits on use and be able to turn it off and find a balance in other activities above and beyond social media and or video games and technology.

I have worked with children , teens and adults over fifteen years at  www.Lifeworksaz.com  and many times it is more than just one issues that a child is suffering with it could be: social, self esteem, bullying, relationship with family, and grades. All of these need to addressed so your child can find balance, happiness, and success in their life.

Teen Counseling Anxiety Phoenix Arizona

Saturday, September 18th, 2021

Every child and teenagers are being negatively impacted by COVID 19 and this is showing in their mental health as well as mood and emotions and behaviors, impulsivity, challenges focusing etc.

Anxiety, depression, fear of the future, concerns regarding school and educational plans, worries about lack of social activities, frustration related to sports and extracurricular activities being closed, modified, and overall no stability as far as the future is feeding : anxiety, depression, Vaping, Substance use and abuse, and unhealthy daily habits.

Children and teens are experiencing a huge sense of grief and loss. School isolation and peer isolation is a huge piece of childhood and not being able to see ones friends and play is impacting social development for children as well as teens and adolescents.

Many children and teens are immersing themselves more and more into technology. It might look like some of the following: instagram, snapchat, Video Gaming, Discord, Twitch, you tube, mind craft, Rocket Leauge, Call of Duty, Rocket league, Netflix, Disney Plus, Amazon Prime, TV, Texting, watching videos, Tik tok, Applications etc. It looks like an increased relationships with ones screens be it : smartphones, TV, Computers, Game Consoles and more.

Children are feeling isolated and disconnected from life during COVID 19 and this likely is impacting them with more anxiety and fear, more negative thoughts and depressed thinking, feeling irritable, feeling hopeless, feeling scared, feeling angry , feeling down, feeling frustrated and more.

Screens have been helpful in that education can continue through screens and there is some connection to life outside the home, however, parents must monitor the use of screens and set strict limits on all screen use. Parents can spend more face to face time with each child and have all electronic devices off while connecting and listening to each child about their fears and concerns and thoughts about what is going on with COVID and all the life changes and how it is impacting their lives.

Parents can set daily schedules for their children and limits. The schedule should have bed time so each child receives adequate sleep. Healthy meals during the day. Promoting daily exercise be it walking if comfortable with it or indoor exercises.

Do not expect your child or teen to be able to self monitor their screen time. Screen time is addictive and what seems like fifteen minutes can turn into hours online. Parents can purchase programs that shut off devices as well as lock up devices in a safe you can buy at target or Costco. Teens may want independence and state they can self monitor, however, the reality for most parents is such that until a teen is on their own and out of your home and paying every bill and showing responsible behaviors in all aspects of life then they still need a parent to not only role model good behavior but to monitor their unhealthy behaviors and help them modify those behaviors. 

Lifeworksaz.com David Abrams MAPC, LPC, CAGS has been working with: Children, teens and families for over 17 years in Phoenix, Scottsdale, Cave Creek, Gilbert, Goodyear, Arizona. David has a specialty area working with children,teen and families. David works with a wide array of child and teen issues including but not limited to: anxiety, depression, mood, communication, social skills, ASD, Anger Management, life skills, parenting tips and more. To learn more go to www.lifeworksaz.com.

Counseling Teen Children; Phoenix, Paradise Valley, Arcadia, Biltmore,Arizona

Monday, September 13th, 2021

Mental health disorders in children and adolescent teens begin before adulthood in a very high percent of cases. EARLY TREATMENT are essential for best outcomes in children and teens. Onset for many mental health disorders have not found a definitive chronological time period.

There has been international studies that look at mental health disorders: ADHD, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION and more with over 700,000 participants and over 200 countries involved in the research studies.

Anxiety and Anxiety Disorders ( Panic Disorders, Seperation Anxiety, Generalized anxiety disorders, Phobia disorders, Panic attacks etc) showed the earliest time frame to appear and this was at almost 6 years old. The highest peak for Anxiety disorders and its onset was around fourteen years old.

In one giant study with youth the study showed that almost forty percent of children and teens showed the disorder was present before the age of fourteen. IN the same study another 49 percent of the youth showed a mental health disorder before they turned the age of eighteen years old.

Many adults believe that mental health disorders do not appear or begin until adulthood and this is very far from evidence based research on mental health disorders and children and adolescents. Many parents notice emotional and behavioral problems: anger, irritability, social skill challenges, communication problems, mood issues, academic issues and believe they will grow out of the issue at hand. It is important for parents to address the issues as soon as possible because early intervention and prevention and balance can be obtained with an expert in the field that help teach your child and teen skills to manage mood, improve on behavioral issues, teach parents new skills and help empower your child or teen to have the tools needed for success in school, at work, with family and in all areas of their lives.

Lifeworksaz.com David Abrams MAPC , LPC CAGS with an advanced graduate specialty in child and family therapy has worked with youth throughout the valley of the Sun : Phoenix AZ., Paradise Valley Arizona, Scottsdale Arizona, Cave Creek Arizona , Chandler, Goodyear, Ahwatukee Arizona specializing in working with children and teens to help them with a wide variety of mental health issues: ADHD, ANXIETY, Autism, Anger Management , Depression Disorders, Mood Disorders, social skills, coaching , building self esteem and much more.

Counseling Teen Anxiety Phoenix, Cave Creek Arizona.

Saturday, September 11th, 2021

An extremely high percentage of teens are functioning at a low level due to sleep deprivation. Many teens are on their devices (Playing video games, smart phones, I Pads, Computers, Texting, watching you tube, netflix and more). Many parents go to sleep at 9 or 10 pm and most teens are still up till 1 am, 2 am, 3am.

MEMORY , MENTAL TASKS, COGNITIVE PROCESSING, and MOOD are all impacted in a negative way. ANXIETY and DEPRESSSION increase and your Teens GRADES in school most likely will be impacted as well as family relationships, behaviors, irritability, ANGER and much more. There are studies that show a strong correlation between screen time use and suicide and poor sleep and suicide.

Studies show in can take a week to two weeks to regain: mental memory and mental processing and that it can not be regained in one day or one nights sleep.

Over forty percent of Americans do not get enough sleep. Over 70 Million Americans suffer with sleep disorders and this is at epidemic levels.

Many teens have poor diet and nutritional deficiencies in that they are not eating healthy foods and this feeds mental distress. Mental distress can lead to : anxiety, depression, anger, irritability and much more negative behaviors. Mental stress can lead to addictions and poor relationships and poor academics. Nutritional deficiencies are correlated with the brain and regulating mood and more. The Journal called Nutrients has more in depth information however this has been known for decades in many other research studies world wide.

The association between screen time and mental health is important for parents to recognize since many children and teens are on their screens 8 hours a day. The more screen time the more distractible your child will be as well as more likely he or she will have depression, anxiety, or another mental health disorder according to research in 2019. The research shows your child or teen will have less friends and less social interactions and social activities has a very high correlation with adult happiness.

Youth that spend more time on screens instead of face to face in person activities or reading or playing sports are much less happy than those children and teens that do not spend so much time on screens( tv, smartphones, I pad, Game boy, Video Games, xbox, internet, netflix, disney plus, prime etc)

There are many activities a child or teen can do that do not involve electronic screens: legos, board games, chess, cards, uno, puzzles, sports, basketball, hiking, biking, walking, running, dancing, drawing, reading books, and so much more)

Lifeworksaz.com works to teach children life skills and tools to manage mood and find health and balance in life and has been doing so for over 18 years working with youth in : phoenix, caveCreek, Chandler, Scottsdale, Goodyear and more.

Counseling Child Anxiety and Stress Male Therapist

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2021

Many Children and Teens are suffering with a great deal of anxiety, anxiety disorders, and stress from the pandemic. Children and teens stress and anxiety has increased at a very high rate and it is impacting children and teenagers in Phoenix Scottsdale Arizona as well as all over Arizona and internationally. When stress is high hormone levels increase in children and teenagers and anxiety and pain and stress related behaviors increase in frequency and intensity and in duration.

One of the very best activities parents should be aware of is intense physical exercise for over 45 minutes five times a week. Exercise is one of the best activities a child and teen can participate in to help regulate stress and anxiety. If a parent can find an activity that a child enjoys be it : basketball, dance, bicycling, volleyball, walking, spin class, soccer, baseball, wrestling, yoga w intensity, etc it will help regulate stress hormones and help balance the mind and brain in relation to stress related behaviors and anxiety. Parents can set boundaries and encourage exercise before screen time otherwise a child or teen will stay in their room and play endless hours of video games or watch Disney plus, Prime, Netflix, or are on instagram, snapchat, tik tok or texting on their smartphone etc.

Telling stories to young children have shown to help manage stress and anxiety in the minutes of the national Academy of Science article. Physical and psychological distress is minimized when connecting with your child one on one. The findings show a psychological and Physiological basis for short term stories one can do with your child. Stories influence emotions and build connections with your child. Stories immerse the child’s mind with language , text, and the imagination ( right side of the brain). Stories can take a child away from thoughts related to the pandemic, help with empathy, and deepen emotional processing as well as help a child broaden life perspectives.

Change for a child is one of the top stressors in research based studies of stress nd children. Leaving school for home or home for school can deprive a child of the comfort of routines, safety, peer comforts, and can adversely affect them for the long term.

Cotisol a hormone related to stress decreased and Oxytocin a hormone associated with empathy and emotional processing increased and pain was alleviated with story telling was the best compared to jokes or riddles or a mystery. Neuroscientists have found that story telling helped adults with anxiety and stress related symptoms and physical pain.

Lifeworks AZ PLLC has worked with children and families to develop skills to mange stress and anxiety for over 15 years. Lifeworks AZ has expertise working with : mood management, Anger management, Behavioral and emotional issues as well as much more. You can read David’s approach on his web site www.lifeworksaz.com . He is strength based and looks at the whole system in order to help create desired changes.

Teen Counseling Anxiety Depression Phoenix AZ and Online Zoom.

Saturday, May 15th, 2021

The portion of teens has doubled since the pandemic of Covid-19. The age bracket between 16-39 years of age showed saw the most dramatic increase in depression. Older generations coped better with depression than the younger generation. Those individuals that were over 70 went from five percent depression to ten percent in depression rates. Teens over 16 went from eleven percent to almost thirty percent which is a huge increase for teen depression.

The number of increases in suicidal thoughts or ideations increased greatly as well as those people experiencing great anxiety and stress symptoms.

Children and teens have been hard hit by the pandemic. The lack of contact with peers and friends, the closure of school, the closure of sports and other social activities, the lockdown has had serious damage on children and youth. Social anxiety is on the rise as well as other anxiety disorders and social interpersonal skills have been impacted in a negative way.

The big factors during the pandemic has been huge changes for children and parents as far as school and work dynamics. Parents being forced to work at home and learning to cope and juggle having the children at home as well as all activities being tweaked do to COVID 19. Coping skills by parents and children and teens have needed extra support and there has been a huge deterioration of well being in parents, children and the family system as a whole.

Research world wide shows that children and teens need social interactions and not just with parents they need interpersonal connections with peers there age. The research shows that in person interaction is vital. Many children and teenagers have interactions via text and via video games through discord or instagram or snapchat or phone however this is not correlated with healthy balanced moods and healthy outcomes as adults in life. One of the biggest components to happiness ad adults is a strong social network and this is why sports and dance and social organizations are essential for youth and success and happiness in life.

David@ LifeworksAZ has specialized working with teens and families as well as children and adults for over 18 years counseling , teaching, and guiding youth and families on how to create optimal balance, cope with stress, create balance, manage mood( anger, depression, anxiety) and much more. To set up an appointment go to www.lifeworksaz.com and fill out a form David will get back to you.

Child Teen ADHD Counseling Phoenix Arizona Therapy Behavior Modification.

Wednesday, January 6th, 2021

Parents are concerned about their children’s unhealthy habits during COVID 19, the Corona Virus Pandemic. Most children are not physically connected to their peers and most sports activities have been disrupted in some capacity. Most children are spending more time at home.

Parents top concerns for their children and teens at home are : social media and screen time at all time highs, poor eating habits, depression, mood, suicidal thoughts. Behavioral issues looking like ADHD or ADD as well.

Concerns about Covid 19 are also huge issues for parenting and ones children. Changes in routines in relation to : school, academics, time at home, activities, social activities, travel, daily life has changed with COVID 19. Change is very challenging for youth as well as for adults. Change is a huge stressor for most people in society.

It is important for children and teens to have social connections with family and friends. Parents should set clear limits and boundaries on how long a child or teen is using : social media, internet, texting, smartphone, video gaming, you tube, movies, Netflix, Disney Plus etc. Having a balance in your child’s day is very important and this includes: adequate sleep, health eating habits, spending time with mom and Dad and family, talking about thoughts and feelings daily. Reading and exercising at least 5 times a week for one hour or more.

Parents should be aware of an increase in your child’s stressors: anxiety, depression, substance use, negative thinking, suicidal or homicidal thoughts or changes in behaviors and or emotions.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommend that providers prescribe behavior therapy and counseling before medication. Parenting and individual child and teen counseling can create desired changes in ADHD behaviors. Behavior therapy gives children choices to manage their own behavior and to make healthy choices and decisions. A behavioral approach will work for a majority of children and teenagers in counseling therapy. Data shows the long term trajectory of ADHD symptoms does not change with medicatio . Behavior therapy looks at the root of the behaviors and helps create change.

Medication does not look at a child’s thoughts or problem solving or behavior management it simply may numb your child out. However when your child or teen refuses to take the medication he or she will not have the skill set to manage his or her moods and emotions and it will be harder to learn the longer he or she has been relying on medication and not dealing with the underlying problems. Behavioral counseling and therapy is not done overnight however results can be seen in weeks depending on the child and family. Parents are involved at a high level to help implement behavior therapy and being consistent is very important.

Research shows using ADHD behavior therapy early on helps prevent other negative behaviors like oppositional defiance, anxiety, depression, conduct disorders , a low sense of self , self esteem and more.

It is important that children with ADHD receive positive praise and rewards after engaging in appropriate behavior. Improvement in parent child relationship was vital to a reduction in ADHD child behavior according to a large study done in Japan. Japan does not typically use Pharmaceuticals to treat ADHD .

ADHD effects children and adolescents worldwide at the rate of 3.5 percent of the worlds children according to researchers. ADHD is one of the most commonly diagnosed mental health disorders in the USA and worldwide. The main symptoms of ADHD are : hyperactivity, impulsivity, and attention deficits.

Over sixty five percent of children and adolescents diagnosed with ADHD in a large study showed the symptoms into their mid twenties.

Healthy diets have a huge impact on ADHD according to research in Spain. Mediterranean diets filled with lots of fruits, vegetables and healthy fats provide the best nutrients for ADHD according to a recent study.

Over one million children are mis diagnosed with ADHD each year. This is concerning since many are put on stimulant medications and long term impacts of stimulants is not known for youth.

Many children are diagnoses with ADHD because they are young and immature and they do not have ADHD. Many children are simply emotionally immature and or intellectually immature. Many ADHD diagnosis are driven by behaviors at school. Teachers are overwhelmed and they do not have the resources to take time to manage a child’s behaviors with many classrooms having a 30:1 ratio . Teachers really need many more assistants and if they did the suggestion of an ADHD diagnosis would disappear most likely.

Children and adolescent teenagers that experience stress and trauma are more likely to have an ADHD diagnosis. Psychosocial issues are rarely looked at by pediatricians according to recent ADHD studies. Children with ADHD may display: disruptive behaviors, impulsivity, issues with organization, issues with memory, challenges with problem solving and more.

ADHD like symptoms are often found in children and teens that have family stressors and or environmental stressors. Family discord and divorce are some examples where ADHD like behaviors are likely to be seen. Research shows that environmental stressors may increase levels of stress to a high toxic level. This level of stress may impair a child or teens brain development, behaviors, and overall it may impact their physical health as well as their mental health.

When environmental stressors like divorce or family stress is not looked at many practitioners may diagnose a child or teen with ADHD and are at risk of overlooking a child’s past trauma or current trauma as well as environmental factors that are the triggers for the behaviors like Impulsivity, disruptive behaviors, challenges with focus or problem solving etc.

Financial hardships, domestic violence, divorce, mental illness in families, incarceration of parents, discrimination death, grief and loss must be looked at in depth before one gives a child or teenager a diagnosis of ADHD.

Children and teens can learn ways to mange behaviors and moods via therapy and counseling. Parents can learn tips to assist in healthy behaviors at home and at school through child therapy and family counseling from a professional who specializes in these areas. Lifeworksaz.com provides child, teen, adolescent, and family therapy in Phoenix, Scottsdale Arizona. David Abrams MAPC, LPC has expertise working with ADHD children and teens for over fifteen years as well as parenting techniques for ADHD

Counseling TEENs: Phoenix, Arizona, Teen Counseling and therapy.

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

David R Abrams MAPC provides counseling expertise, coaching, consulting, and therapy for children, teenagers, Adults, and parents for over 15 years in Phoenix, Arizona, Paradise Valley Arizona, Scottsdale Arizona, Arcadia, Biltmore Arizona.

Many practitioners label clients with a disorder be it ADHD Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder counseling, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder etc.

One of the main reasons for a diagnosis for a disorder is for insurance reimbursement. A practitioner submits a code with the disorder for reimbursement. The medical model for medication providers is similar a disorder with a code is submitted and a medication that is matched with the disorder is now prescribed.

In my professional experience I identify the challenges and behaviors and issues that are going on with and adult or child or teen without giving the individual a “label”or a “disorder”. Labels and disorders can be self fulfilling prophecies in that an individual believes they have a disorder and can NEVER improve. Individuals who are given labels feel: defective, disabled, and damaged and the reality is this is not remotely true. 

I have seen individuals that came into my office with all sorts of society labeled disorders . Many were able to manage their challenges without having another stigma of a label placed on their forehead.

I have seen adults and children learn to manage: depression, anxiety, tantrums, rage, addictive behaviors, relationship challenges, and much more.

I have seen Autistic labeled youth excel socially, and obtain employment as well as improve family relationships and have great success at college.

It is vital to take the time and not only look at the challenges that are out of balance today and also look at how the individual got off track before the current challenges. Simply labeling the tip of the iceberg does not look at the depth of the iceberg that goes deep into the ocean. It is vital to look at the roots of the Tree and not only the roots of the tree but the soil, water, sunshine, vitamins and more. This is vital to create balance in health in humans!

There are many big behaviors that are important to address and look deep into why these behaviors are happening with your child or teen.

Your child may rage and have temper tantrums. This eruption of emotions is seen as the child or teen is now out of control. Some reasons these behaviors may be occurring are un resolved: pain, grief, loss, anxiety, control issues, or sensory issues. The inability to communicate thoughts and feelings to a parent are also a potential reason for anger filled raging behaviors.

Escape is another behavior when a child is not dealing with emotions. It is important to find out why they want to escape.

Children and teens may refuse to do something be it a chore or coming to the dinner table or getting off their video games.

Verbally badgering a parent is a behavior that is learned where the child knows if they keep asking the parent they will eventually break them down and get what they are asking for.. This can lead to frustration,  arguing, and aggression.

Refusal to do chores or do homework is also a common behavior seen in children and teens that create challenges for parents at home.

Verbal aggression and raising ones voice in tone is often used to control a situation and manipulate a parent’s behavior. Verbal aggression is a big red flag because verbal aggression tends to increase in families and it can often lead to physical aggression. Many times verbal aggression is the inability to communicate or could be a sensory issues that is going on with your child or adolescent teenager.

Aggression is a huge issue in schools and at home with siblings as well as with parents. Sometimes aggression is self directed , however, when adults get involved it oozes out onto the parents or adults in charge.

Not following directions is an issue at home and can be an issue at school as well. An example of this would be completing homework, completing a task on a job, completing tasks at home like chores.

Bullying others at school at home is also an issue. Bullying can be verbal, emotional, and physical or just some of the above mentioned. This creates physical or emotional harm to others. This can include: put downs, contradicting adults, getting others to laugh at expense of others, deliberately annoying someone, name calling, blaming others. Two kids of equal power arguing w each other may not be bullying the circumstance would need to be assessed.

Anxiety and panic reactions can also be the cause of negative acting out behaviors. This behavior can be seen as oppositional  and it is important to understand your child’s anxiety to understand their behaviors.

There may be a variety of reasons why a child or teen’s behavior is seen as defiant or angry or aggressive.

Adolescent teens may feel a need to escape. Escape could be do to feeling inadequate, gain control over self and the environment. Teens escaping may be to get attention or get an emotional need met. Escape can be daydreaming or using electronics.

The need for attention by an adult is another reason why behaviors may arise. The need for attention from a peer. The teen is looking for emotional attention. Attention to have a sense of belonging. Attention to cover up feelings of inadequacy.

Basic needs and physical needs and sensory needs are a category of why a behavior may be arising.

Children and adolescents may be in emotional pain . Emotional pain impacts are thoughts, feelings and actions even though the pain source may not be visually apparent.

Children that do not honor their parents are on the rise . Children and teens feel it is ok to call parent’s name, scream at them, be verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. Many children and teens are running the house and parents are allowing themselves to be victimized by their children. It is not healthy for the child and it is not healthy for the parents. Family values and respecting mom and Dad must be paramount! By focusing more on achieving an ‘A’ you are teaching your child that how you treat me and how you talk to me is not important in life. When parents negotiate disrespectful behavior without firm boundaries and without following through with a consequence daily this lack of action means something to the individual child that they are saying basically you can continue walking all over me because I am not going to set a boundary or a consequence with this disrespectful behavior. Consistency daily is vital.

. Children that do not treat others with respect are not treating themselves with respect as well. No child that abuses their parent’s verbally feels good about their emotional well being.

Parents have great intentions. They want their children to excel in academics and sports and extracurricular activities however family must come first. If not you are putting time and energy into a situation that will not support your family or create long term love. Your child may go to a good college however he will not have success in all areas of his life specifically relationships and working with others. 

Children and adolescent teenagers are using their smartphones and video games and electronics and TVs and iPads on average of 60-70 hours  per week.  This is not healthy and there is great amounts of research to support limiting electronics. No child should have his or her smart phone is his or her room as well as: tv, iPad, Video games. Research from the American Academy of Pediatrics state this and most experts worldwide on children and teens support this fact.

Family time and family communication is vital. Spending time discussing your day and communicating feelings and thoughts without electronic devices is crucial. Having dinner without phones and TV is needed. Talking in the car with your children without ear buds in and texting is very important. Discussing family activities, chores, events, expectations, values, and how to communicate and treat others is essential.

STRESS, Depression and anxiety are on the rise not only during the COVID 19 crisis. Mental health Disorders are on the rise over the past ten years and yes there are many factors that are contributing to the rise in teen anxiety and depression.

There has been an increase in depression and anxiety among teens at the rate of almost 19.5 percent. Suicidal thoughts and suicidal thinking increased the most among teenagers in the USA.

Look for changes in your child or teens behavior for signs there may be a mental health issue present with your child or your teenager. An example would be your child or teen always gets grades of B or higher and now grades are C and below this is a red flag. Another example would be your child or teen used to come out of their room and spend time with Mom and or Dad and now is spending time in their room and it is not due to extra homework or studying.

Many parents use logic and are spending a lot of time problem solving for their child. Most children and teens brains are not fully developed until after 23 years old. It is important that parents listen to your child and teenagers emotions and feelings and allow them to express themselves without problem solving. It is essential to show empathy and validate your child and teens feelings daily. If not your child will stuff these emotions and they will ooze out into mental health issues such as: depression, anxiety, substance abuse, paranoia, lack of motivation and more.

Many parents and some very highly educated with graduate degrees believe that mental health issues are a quick fix. Some child and teen mental health disorders can be fixed in a short time, however, some take more than a handful of sessions. Counseling and psychotherapy are complex and there are many variables and experiences from the past that create the present situation.

For example I have had client’s that are straight A students that are in the 95 percentile on their SAT , however, they are struggling with homework and motivation and there are grades are slipping. They are suffering from a great deal of anxiety as well as depression . The anxiety as well as the depressed mood has built up over years. If your child or teen has been thinking distorted or unhealthy thoughts for lets say five years then that would be almost Two Thousand two hundred days of unhealthy cognitions throughout the day and it will take some time to untwist these unhealthy “knots’ and elevate mood as well as to learn to manage their anxiety. Each child and teen is unique so there is not a standard number of sessions. Parents will see positive changes in behavior and mood over time and will know their child is back on track and feeling balanced.

I have worked with youth and families for over 15 years in mental health counseling, coaching, and consulting. It is vital to help your child and teenager find balance in all aspects of their lives. A child or teen that obtains great grades is excellent, however, the child may need more balance as far as social skills, self esteem, friendships, exercise, family relationships, extracurricular activities, as well as being balanced with integrating their thoughts as well as their feelings.

Developing rapport is a huge piece in working with youth and understanding their world. I spend a lot of time learning about my client’s world. Learning about the books they read, the video games they play, the web sites and apps they post on, the social media they are involved with, what movies they enjoy, what tv shows they love, what sports they enjoy, what type of art they find interesting be it Animae or sketching etc, what hobbies they love, and what their favorite foods or restaurants are, and more. It is vital to understand each child’s unique world and each child and teens individualized personality traits.

If you are feeling: stress, depressed, anxious, frustrated, take time to journal your thoughts and feelings as well as talk to a loved one or best friend or see a professional in the field of counseling psychology and or mental health providers.

Stay active physically this means exercise daily. There are free applications on line as well as on your smart phone where you can do many activities included and not limited to: dance, cardio, cycling, weight training, strength, Boxing, MMA,running, yoga, meditation, stretching, bootcamp, walking and much more. Spending time doing intense and vigorous activities will help you with anxiety and depression during a time of isolation and uncertainty during this COVID 19 pandemic.

Teens are facing a great deal of challenges that are real and challenging. Adolescents are exposed to many struggles from the inside to their environment. Teens are experiencing hormonal and physical body changes. Youth are searching for their own identity and want to fit in as well as find friendships. Many teenagers feel overwhelmed and stressed out concerning their grades, their future, college, a career path and more.

Some of the most common problems teens are facing today are: relationship issues with family and friends, stress, bullying, anxiety, depression, addiction to Electronics: social media, instagram, snapchat, video games, you tube, Netflix, the internet, texting, TV, and other electronic media, body image, peer pressure, drinking and smoking, drugs, self esteem, social skills, academic and school stress, family communication and healthy life skills and habits.

All of the above issues are interconnected and must be addressed to create healthy life choices and healthy behaviors at home and at school as well as socially for your child’s success and happiness.

For example if your child has a few friends he might be suffering from anxiety and stress. He or she might also have a low self esteem and negative thinking about his or her ability to be liked and fit in with peers. Many youth are highly critical and judgmental of themselves and their image of their body is negative. Many teens compare themselves to media and celebrities and feel inferior or un attractive.

Bullying is a huge issue in the school system. Children and teens can be cruel in person and via smartphone and internet. Bullying is real and has impacted millions of children and teens. A child that is being bullied is suffering great emotional pain and this must be addressed asap. Many children have committed suicide and have stated in their suicide notes that is was due to being bullied. Bullying impacts your child’s mood, academics, and social lives and this is vital to be addressed for your child’s mental and physical health.

Depression is one of the worst problems teens are struggling with and can lead to more problems in the future. Depression can arise from: low self esteem, negative self talk, poor self image, struggles academically, grief and loss, poor social interactions, family challenges, bullying, being out of balance, poor sleep, and other unhealthy habits.

There are many symptoms of depression in your child. It can be : dropping grades, changes in sleep, sleeping too much, lack of sleep, lack of interest and motivation in activities they once enjoyed, isolating in their room, crying a lot, not communicating feelings, avoiding family interactions, isolating, suicidal talk, feeling hopeless, worthless, criticizing themselves.

Teen problems are interrelated and for example depression will not improve unless negative self talk improves, self esteem changes, social interactions change, eating and sleeping habits change, family dynamics change etc. A holistic approach is best.

Lifeworksaz.com David Abrams MAPC, LPC CAGS has worked with children, teens and families for over fifteen years. His specialty is youth and families working with : depression, anxiety, ADHD, ASD, Bullying, electronic addiction, family issues, academics, motivation, social skills, self esteem, mood regulation, stress management, and more. David has worked with youth and families providing teen counseling in: Phoenix, Cave Creek, Scottsdale, Tempe, Goodyear, Buckeye, and Gilbert.

Teen Counseling in Phoenix Arizona : Video Games social media, Anxiety, Depression and poor academics.

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

Video games are now a bigger industry than sports and movies combined. Global gaming has risen to a 180 BILLION dollar industry in 2020. The global film industry brought in approx. 100 Billion in 2020. The global sports industry brought in approximately 75 million. The largest growth in the video game industry came 

from: mobile Gaming, console gaming, then PC gaming in the last year. Smartphone and tablet gaming revenue is on the rise in a giant manner. The top ten video games in the USA in 2020 are : Call of Duty: Black Ops: Cold War, Call of Duty: Modern Warfare, Animal Crossing: New Horizons, Madden NFL21,  The last of Us: Part 2, Ghost of Tsushima, Assassins creed: Valhala, Final Fantasy VII; Remake, Marvel’s Avengers, Super Mario 3D All stars.

Addiction to social media and video gaming should be classified as a disease according to experts in England. There are great concerns with harmful content online and poor mental health. The English gov is asking Psychiatrist to make assessment of social media and online habits a part of mental health assessments. This should have been done over a decade ago according to most experts world wide.

Twenty five percent of eighteen to twenty five year olds stated watching reality tv made them worry about there body image. Fifteen percent of those that have watched stated they have self harmed due to body image issues. Almost twenty three percent stated they had suicidal thoughts in relation to their body images.

Thoughts of body images in a negative light are linked to : anxiety , depression, , and shame and this is not good for mental health issues.

Children and teens are not born with addictive minds however they are learned behaviors based on unhealthy thoughts that are based on fear and scarcity and thoughts that believe there is not enough. Not enough time, not enough love, not enough friends, not enough food, not enough video games , not enough toys, not enough clothing, not enough infinite items. The reality is these are false thoughts in that there is enough and there is enough love to go around.

Many teens are showing symptoms of : anxiety, depression, substance abuse and more and video games are not helping your child’s mental health.

Children an teens carry around negative thoughts of past behaviors that they are : bad, not good, not loveable, losers, etc and I see this in my office on a regular basis. We must not dwell on past thoughts and past behaviors because the past is done with and over and we must create a new thought pattern and new behaviors today. A child can not move past behaviors if they are dwelling and thinking about low points and negative cognitions in their minds. A child or teen may have lost their temper and hit a wall and put holes in the wall, however, the child and family must forgive him and we must not live in the past in order to create new behaviors and relationships and positive feelings in the future. Past guilt and resentment does not allow healthy thoughts of abundance and love and keeps children in Fear and inadequate thinking that fuels addiction and much more. If your child has this type of thinking they will search for things outside themselves to medicate their pain like: video games, vaping, drugs, tv, social media and have to do more and more of it so they do not have to cope with or deal with painful feelings.

Many children and teens are dwelling in negativity being negative self talk on a daily basis and in order to feel better they immerse themselves in media and in video games and Tv and social media and you tube so they do not have to look at themselves this is part of addictive thinking in children and teenagers.

A child and teen who feels inadequate has a low self esteem and is most likely judging themselves in negative ways with negative self talk that is their programming for all behaviors at home at school and with peers. Guilt ridden thoughts and comparison with siblings and peers can only lead to more feelings of inadequacy and low self worth. These thoughts feed addictive behaviors. It is vital to untwist these knots and pull these weeds in your child or teens mind for them to move in a balanced and healthy and successful direction at home and at school and in all areas of their life and have their garden grow and blossom.

A child and teens judgment squeezes the opportunity for joy and laughter and happiness in life. The addictive cycle of negative thinking leaves very little room to enjoy oneself and family and feel happy and balanced.

Addictive thinking in children have many unhealthy thoughts. I must be perfect in all I do. This is an addiction to being right. Another addictive thought is get as much as you can due to scarcity this thought does not allow balance nor does it allow a child to understand quality vs quantity and feeds addictive personalities and minds of children and teens.

Attacking and defending is one of the most challenging thought systems that feeds and expands a child’s addictive thought system. The more a child or adolescent teen attacks and defends the more we feel inadequacy. It is here that a victim begins to victimize someone it can be: mentally, emotionally, physically, or sexually.

Children and teens get stuck in guilt and shame and can not move from the past in their thinking or their future thinking of fear and worry and this must be addressed in order to be balanced and healthy.

It is very important for children and teens to learn that a situation does not determine their experience. We know it is the thoughts that we hold in our minds that will determine our perception.www.lifeworksaz.com has been working with children and teens as well as families for over 15 years. David Abrams MAPC, LPC, CAGS has a graduate specialty in child, teen and family therapy as well as more. David has a strength based approach and uses many research based techniques to reach positive results. David Abrams is a child and family psychotherapist that has a great deal of experience with : mood management, behavioral and emotional issues, anxiety, depression, self esteem , social skills, anger management, motivation, family issues, adhd behaviors and much more. To see more go to his web site www.lifeworksaz.com

Articles are not to be taken as a substitute for professional advice or counseling.